In such an instant, an empath will begin to frantically seek love, validation, confirmation, and acceptance from a narcissist and each cry for help as such will affirm to the narcissist what they are desperate to feel inside—worthy. A bitter battle is sure to ensue.
As an empath focuses solely on their pain, trauma and the destruction of their lives, they become preoccupied with themselves and fail to see the source of it all. Instead of looking for external causes and seeking the truth, the empath will turn everything inward and engage in constant self-blame.
Any attempt to communicate authentically with the narcissist will be futile as they will certainly not be looking to soothe and heal anyone else. As soon as the narcissist discovers the needs of the empath, which is care and nurturance, the narcissist will immediately start being indifferent and aloof to the needs of the empath. The narcissist has numerous techniques to wield their powers on others, especially one who can’t protect themselves.
An empath will know that they are in a destructive relationship by this stage and will feel so insecure, unloved and unworthy and it can be easy to blame all of their destruction onto the narcissist.
An empath can either choose to keep on being the victim of this emotional abuse or garner the courage to move out of it. But this is naturally a very difficult task for an empath who eternally seeks for attachment.
Emotionally exhausted, lost, depleted and debilitated an empath will struggle to understand what has happened to the once loving, attentive and charismatic person they were attracted to.
How we allow others to treat us is our choice. If an empath chooses to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and refuses to take responsibility for the dynamic, they are choosing what they believe they deserve. An empath cannot let their self-worth be determined by a narcissist. It is imperative they trust and believe in themselves enough to recognize that they deserve much better than what is being afflicted on them.
All an empath looks for is a caring and understanding partner and not a constant battle of ego, torment, and pain. This realization is the most crucial part in the process of getting out of the death trap of a narcissist’s victim status.
We are not here to fix anyone. We cannot fix anyone. Everyone is responsible for and capable of fixing themselves, but only if they so choose to.
The more an empath can learn about the personality of a narcissist the sooner they will spot one and the less chance they have of developing a relationship with one. If a relationship is already underway, it is never too late to seek help, seek understanding and knowledge and to dig deep into one’s soul and recognize our own strengths and capabilities, find out ways to respectably walk out of such an abusive relationship.
The modification of the personality of a narcissist is not possible as it is a deeply inbuilt trait. so we shouldn’t stick around waiting for it to happen. If a narcissist wants to change, then great, but it should not cost the life’s quality of another individual. They are not consciously aware of their behavior and the damage it causes and in their game, they will sacrifice anyone and anything for their own gain—regardless of what pretty lies and sweet nothings they try to whisper.
An empath, being genuine and authentic with a pious purpose of healing will find the whole relationship to be a huge lesson, a dodged bullet leading to a painful awakening.
A narcissist will struggle to have any connection to their authentic self and will likely walk away from the relationship very easily once they realize they have lost their ability to control the empath. The game is no longer pleasurable if they are not having their ego constantly stroked, so they will seek out their next victim.
The ability of these two types to bond is quite simply impossible. The narcissist’s heart is closed, an empath is open—it is nothing short of a recipe for a huge disaster, a very destructive one.
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