The more dominating the narcissist becomes, the more likely the empath will retreat into a victim status. And soon enough, this domination and power play will be projected on the empath, while the empath imbibes in this poisonous projection into themselves. Before long, an extremely vicious circle has begun to swirl.
When a narcissist sees that an empath is wounded they will play along and the main intention will be to keep the empath down. This cruel, inhuman treatment of power play will make the empaths feel more vulnerable and pathetic about their situation.
On such an instant, an empath will begin to frantically seek love, validation, confirmation and acceptance from a narcissist and each cry for help as such will affirm to the narcissist what they are desperate to feel inside—worthy. A bitter battle is sure to ensue.
As an empath focuses solely on their pain, trauma and the destruction of their lives, they become preoccupied with themselves and fail to see the source of it all. Instead of looking for external causes and seeking the truth, the empath will turn everything inward and engage in constant self-blame.
Any attempt to communicate authentically with the narcissist will be futile as they will certainly not be looking to soothe and heal anyone else. As soon as the narcissist discovers the needs of the empath, which is care and nurturance, the narcissist will immediately start being indifferent and aloof to the needs of the empath. The narcissist has numerous techniques to wield their powers on others, specially one who can’t protect themselves.
An empath will know that they are in a destructive relationship by this stage and will feel so insecure, unloved and unworthy and it can be easy to blame all of their destruction onto the narcissist.
An empath can either choose to keep on being the victim to this emotional abuse, or garner the courage to move out of it. But this is naturally a very difficult task for an empath who eternally seeks for attachment.
Emotionally exhausted, lost, depleted and debilitated an empath will struggle to understand what has happened to the once loving, attentive and charismatic person they were attracted to.
How we allow others to treat us is our choice. If an empath chooses to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and refuses to take responsibility for the dynamic, they are choosing what they believe they deserve. An empath cannot let their self-worth be determined by a narcissist. It is imperative they trust and believe in themselves enough to recognize that they deserve much better than what is being afflicted on them.
All an empath looks for is a caring and understanding partner and not a constant battle of ego,torment and pain. This realization is the most crucial part in the process of getting out of the death trap of a narcissists victim status.
We are not here to fix anyone. We cannot fix anyone. Everyone is responsible for and capable of fixing themselves, but only if they so choose to.
The more an empath can learn about the personality of a narcissist the sooner they will spot one and the less chance they have of developing a relationship with one. If a relationship is already underway, it is never too late to seek help, seek understanding and knowledge and to dig deep into one’s soul and recognize our own strengths and capabilities, find out ways to respectably walk out of such an abusive relationship.