The Love Triangle: Why Triangulation Is So Intriguing To A Narcissist?

Love Triangle

A love triangle or relationship triangulation can be referred to as an intimate relationship involving more than two people. One can adopt many ways to triangulate, be it engaging with another person or triangulating with behavior that avoids direct communication. Although this can be extremely damaging for a relationship, it still fascinates many people. But why is this something so fantastically wrong yet terribly right?

Triangulation is a devastating weapon in our arsenal. Whether we are triangulating you as our primary source with another potential love interest (real or imagined), you with family and friends in terms of loyalties and spending time together, or even triangulating you with an object (our mobile ‘phone or our new car) you will always be triangulated when you entangle with our kind.

Triangulation comes in many guises but has two broad categories. Firstly, there is the triangulation which is taking place but you do not even witness it. This is where we may be conducting an affair behind your back and you have no knowledge of it at all. This is still triangulation because we are involving three people in our intimate relationship but you do not witness it and the third party may not know about you either.

The second category is where you witness the behavior. For instance, we spend more time jabbing our mobile ‘phone and talking on it than spending time with you. We may make mention of a particular person (usually of the opposite sex) a lot of the time.

We may even tell you that we have been carrying on with someone else because you do not show us enough admiration and appreciation. In such instances, you witness the triangulating behavior but often you will not actually realize that it is taking place.

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This is hiding in plain sight. You dismiss it by trying to convince yourself that there is nothing to be concerned about or we may assuage your fears through our usual charm and persuasion. One thing that you can be assured of however is that you will be triangulated during your entanglement with us and it will not just happen once.

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This reliance on triangulation as part of our manipulations is because it is so effective at achieving many things for us.

What then, does triangulation achieve?

–  It is often easy to implement, e.g. making mention of someone, spending our time playing video games, meeting someone frequently, perking up when a certain person calls round or telephones;

– We gain fuel from two sources out of the same circumstances;

– It underlines our notion of omnipotence since we are able to orchestrate the actions of two people so they compete with one another over us, we are the puppet master jerking the strings of two love rivals;

– It creates uncertainty in one or more of the parties which makes it easier for us to exert control and harder for the party or parties to see clearly;

– It causes the participants to focus on defeating one another in order to win us as the prize and thus they do not realize that we are really the problem;

– It allows a discarded primary source to be smeared with ease;

– It assists the maintenance of our façade.

Accordingly, the act of triangulation serves many purposes which accord with our malevolent agenda.

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Tudor HG

I am HG Tudor. I am a narcissistic sociopath (some state psychopath – this remains a matter of debate by the profession concerning the current application of sociopath or psychopath). By my terminology, I am a Greater Elite Narcissist. You will learn here what that means along with all about the other types of narcissists and empaths too. I convey this is an effective manner based on my perspective. I know what I am and I know the best way to communicate this to you. I am a very effective communicator. I write extensively about what this means and what I am. I have practiced this dark art for many years, I have honed and crafted my abilities. I am aware of what I am and I am engaged in understanding why I am this way and why I act as I do. I am sharing these ongoing revelations.HG Tudor is the author of several books. View complete list of books hereView Author posts