3 Sneaky Techniques Narcissists Use to Gain Attention

3 Sneaky Techniques Narcissists Use to Gain Attention


2. Monopolizing conversation

Have you ever felt left out in a conversation? 

Or has a conversation with someone seemed like you are ‘talking to the wall’? 

Two-Way Communication with a narcissist is almost next to impossible. You might try out all sorts of tricks but you cannot help feel stupid and useless when a narcissist is blabbering around. 

Celeste Headlee said in a TEDtalk(10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation), “A conversation requires a balance between talking and listening, and somewhere along the way, we lost that balance.”

This balance is exactly what a narcissist lacks in their communication. 

A narcissist will find means to exaggerate the information that he/she is trying to convey to hold onto your attention. But once you try to express something of concern, he/she will politely yet subtly direct the conversation towards themselves. 

For instance, you are talking about how you narrowly escaped death from a car accident and your friend suddenly says, “The same thing happened to me. Once I was riding a bike on the highway and I lost control and skidded all the way across the road. I thought I almost died.” Unfortunately, you are no more the focus of the conversation.  

Some people will believe this to be a means to identify with you and your experience which actually encourages the smooth flow of the conversation. But once they shift the point of concern to themselves, you are no longer in the scenario. 


3. Engaging in the victim role  

Playing victim is the most powerful weapon of a narcissist. They wield it whenever they feel like they are losing their upper hand. They will stealthily play mind games with you until you catch them off guard. And if you do so, they will apply their final dose of trickery. 

A narcissist will find ways to belittle you, hurt you, criticize you, blame you and trample your spirits in all possible ways but when you retaliate they will immediately turn the sympathy radar to themselves. “I have been abused since my childhood and now you have left me with no option but realize that I deserve nothing better than these.” 

They will very efficiently trigger your emotions to capture your sympathy and attention. And if you are gullible and prone to be easily influenced by others, you will feed them with the attention they demand from you. 

They feed on your guilt and turn the attention towards themselves.

“Half of the people lie with their lips; the other half with their tears”

Nassim Nicholas Taleb

It indeed is very emotionally draining to be constantly manipulated with these techniques narcissists use to gain attention. Some people are attention-seeking to the core but they do not exploit the emotions of others to do so. But narcissists feed on other people’s vulnerabilities to put themselves in the limelight. 

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