An insight into the developmental stage of adolescence, to better understand the common causes of stress among them.
Have you ever found your child behaving indifferently without any particular reason?
Do they regularly argue with you and ask conflicting questions to you?
Do you think this radical change of attitude is a red flag for you?
If you can relate to the above, it’s high time for you to be cautious. Your child is going through psychological stress and the impact of which is getting reflected in their behavior, academic performance and social communication.
What is adolescence?
Adolescence is a period of transition from childhood to adulthood, spanning between 12- 17 years of age.
The journey is marked by complex physical, emotional and social changes resulting into depression, anxiety and stress.
What is stress?
Stress is a biological process that engages you either into a ‘fight or flight response’.
It can be acute or chronic.
Stress is a psychological condition when it overpowers your mental state causing you acute emotional and psychological disturbances.
Stress can be either positive or negative.
Signs of negative stress are more common than the positive ones. Children of adolescence stage mostly suffer from negative impacts of stress.
Stress among adolescents is soaring high nowadays, giving way to childhood depression, suicidal ideation, anxiety and cyber- crime.
Identifying the red flags should be an immediate concern rather than coping with drastic consequences.
The underlying causes of stress among adolescents.
1. ‘It’s not me’-
When a Child experiences extreme curiosity and confusion about the changes in their body.
Secretion of hormones brings changes in physical appearance, leaving the child bewildered. They feel awkward. Assuming the change is unreal, they cultivate a sense of insecurity, guilt and shame.
They feel people will consider them as ‘bad’ because the concept of morality to them was based on the ideology of ‘good- me’ (urge to have an ideal ‘self’ to others).
According to Kai-wen (2010), students at this level may sometimes experience incompatibility of their mental development with their physical changes or social environment and thus suffer from problems arising from inadequate adaptation.
Severe blow to their frame of ideal self can be a real stressor.
2. ‘I am misjudged’-
When they feel devastated being iteratively misinterpreted in relationship with parents.
The period of adolescence demands care and attention from parents, not by playing a role of a stringent parent but by establishing an amicable bond of affection and understanding.
Conflict with parents, if left unresolved can prove hazardous to your child’s mental health.
As a parent you need to win your child’s trust by applying ‘talking-out- phenomenon’ rather than helicoptering over them, intruding into their actions and autonomy. This will distance you from them, they will coil around their own zone, digging every ground to mental distress.