Are you a control freak? Do you have the signs of a control freak? Are you a perfectionist and extremely effective? Do you micromanage everything? Then you just might be a control freak. But how can you know for sure?
It’s only natural to want to control things (and people) as it gives people a sense of security, a way to cope with fear, But sometime’s it can get overbearing for others. Although there are some benefits of being a control freak, it can also leave you feeling stressed and anxious, and depressed. The need for control can stem from deeper psychological issues such as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), anxiety disorders, or personality disorders. But there are ways to slow down the obsessive behavior to control.
Here are a few telltale signs of a control freak and how you can stop.
Who is a control freak?
Control freak refers to high-control individuals who behave in certain controlling and demanding ways that may cause feelings of resentment and frustration in others. Control freaks usually undermine people and have controlling behavior. They tend to dictate others and tell everyone what needs to be done in a professional or social scenario.
They need to get everything done the way they feel is right and have a strong need to have complete control over every aspect of their lives. They don’t feel they are doing anything wrong and often justify their controlling behavior. One of the signs of a control freak is that they tend to establish the rules and order for others and demand perfection from everyone, including themselves.
In Psychology Today post, clinical psychologist Seth Meyers, Psy.D. writes, “Control seekers are often obsessive-compulsive, angry (either overt or passive-aggressive), phobic, or even mood-disordered. These people need control because, without it, they fear things would spiral out of control and their lives would fall apart.”
“For control freaks, control means security, that they are okay, and their lives are under control. That stimulates the need to constantly be in control. The idea of losing control implies that they will be harmed in some way, something will go wrong, or they will suffer consequences for not taking charge,” says licensed mental health counselor GinaMarie Guarino in a post.
It’s a personality disorder
Control freaks are usually individuals who suffer from Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), also known as an anankastic personality disorder. However, OCPD should not be confused with OCD or obsessive-compulsive disorder as these are not the same.
People with OCPD have an obsessive need to dominate and control people and situations. This type of a personality disorder is often related with antisocial personality disorder. They also have a preoccupation with perfectionism, mental control, interpersonal control and orderliness. They also tend to believe that they know better than others, even when they are evidently wrong. They are also very judgmental and manipulative.
As control freaks don’t believe they are doing anything wrong, it can be very hard to spot a control freak. So how can you identify a high-control person with OCPD?
13 Signs of a control freak
Clinical psychologist Erika Martinez explains “As humans, we all have a need to feel loved and as though we belong to a partner, a family, a circle of friends, etc. Being a control freak or perfectionist is one means of ensuring that needs get met.”
Wondering if you’re a control freak? Here are a few signs of a control freak that will help you find out if you have OCPD and love controlling everything around you:
- They are perfectionists and do not believe in the concept of imperfection. Moreover, they also think that others should pursue perfection as well.
- They have difficulty coping with uncertainty. Control freaks feel very uncomfortable in ambiguous situations where they don’t know or are unable to control the outcome.
- They always correct others whenever they can. They will point out even the tiniest mistake and get into an unnecessary argument.
- They are bad at delegating tasks as they believe they can do it best. They think they are the most qualified and can complete it perfectly. They have a hard time trusting others.
- They have a difficult time being a part of a team as it means distributing the power of control equally among all team members. They are bad team players and will always seek opportunity to become the leader.
- Control freaks can be very moody and often feel stressed and anxious due to their own mental issues. Moodiness, stress, and frustration are some of the most common signs of a control freak.
- They never admit their mistakes. Control freaks never accept their own faults and they will never admit that they can be wrong, no matter how small the issue is. They always put the blame on others.
- Control freaks love to judge and criticize others. They will always comment about how you should dress, behave, act and live your life. And if you don’t act according to their wishes, they will resort to criticizing you a lot.
- They are master manipulators and will use fear or pleasure to manipulate anyone to get things their way. They gain the trust of others solely with the aim of dominating and controlling them.
- They try to micromanage everything as they think they know what’s best for everyone. They will look into everything and tell everyone how something needs to be done. They might even become very aggressive if they don’t get things done their way.
- They think they know everything. Control freaks believe themselves to be highly intelligent, knowledgeable and practical. Hence, they will always have the last word and try their best to win an argument.
- They want everything to go according to their schedule and they tend to lose their temper even at the slightest modifications in their schedules.
- They have difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. As they try to manage and control every aspect of their romantic partner, they tend to be dominating in the relationship. This leads to an unhealthy and toxic relationship.