Not necessarily all relationships will emerge out as you wish it to. Some relationships begin on good terms, go through trials of highs and lows, yet survive because the relationship has all the basic requirements – trust, connectivity, and respect.
But due to a number of uncontrollable factors, both internal and external, a relationship might turn into a toxic one.
A bad relationship is one that is long dead, has no spark, is filled with miscommunication or at times a complete lack of communication, repeated conflicts, and arguments, absence of empathy, respect, and understanding. A relationship that hinges on abuse and manipulation is the worst kind.
But surprisingly, people keep dragging a relationship, even after knowing that it is not yielding any good results for either of the partners. Some people will cross miles to somehow keep supporting an undeserving relationship.
How far will you go to save a relationship from failing?
Bad relationships are anything but self-degrading and self-sabotaging leading to ultimate suffering on both ends.
Even when there are numerous available opportunities in the dating world, what is it that keeps someone anchoring on to a bad relationship?
Is it love? Or is it a habit?
Let’s take a deeper look at what makes you stick to bad relationships with all your heart and soul.
1. To avoid being lonely.
Loneliness can make one feel like the end of the world. It significantly lowers a person’s self-confidence and distorts overall self-perception. Someone who has been into the grasp of loneliness will never like to return back there.
Being in a committed relationship has a social connotation. Some people are of the belief that having a partner and being able to flaunt it increases your social status and reputation.
The mere physical presence of your partner, no matter how abusive, how inconsiderate, how indifferent your he/she is, can sometimes make you feel comfortable. We often hesitate to let go of our ‘habit’ of the person.
The thought of waking up in the morning to emptiness can be unnerving to some. It is not because you intensely love being with your partner. You might as well ignore each other just after you wake up, but It is simply because staying alone has not been usual for so long. You want to make sure that you don’t feel lonely, lost and unwanted.
Functioning with low-self esteem is like fighting a battle within yourself every single moment. You constantly keep questioning your own worth, your capacities and what you are bringing to the relationship.
Low self-esteem fools us to think that we always deserve much less than what we are getting from the relationship as the significance we put to ourselves is much lower than our deserving value.
These people tend to measure their worth based on whether they have a partner or not, whether the partner accepts them or not, values them or not, or appreciates them or not.
When you have low self-esteem, you need constant validation and approval from someone. And if that person is someone you love it makes you feel valued and wanted.
If you are continuing a bad relationship, which has nothing to offer you, ask yourself, Are you putting a deserving value to yourself?
As a matter of fact, when you start putting yourself on a higher pedestal, you will come to realize that there are innumerable reasons to make an exit from the relationship.
Co-dependents have an addiction to relationships, just as any addict would use substances to get that ‘high’ feeling.
Sadly, when a person is overly emotionally dependent on their partner, most often than not they have low self-esteem(moving back to point 2). This is the reason, they measure their self-worth in relation to someone else, other than themselves. Co-dependents usually respond to external cues more often than internal needs.