Codependent relationships make you lose yourself while you keep trying to become an ideal partner.
As you beam with genuine confidence and move away from your codependency with the narcissist, something crazy might happen. You might find a way to leave.
Codependency is the leftover, unhealed, unfinished wounds of our past, where we did not develop enough on the inside to feel safe, whole, and self-generative.
When we can really be anchored and rooted in this love that exists within us, then we’re not dependent on this other person, fearfully holding them to be responsible for a love that actually we can only ever find and access from within us.
How love or unloved we feel as children deeply affect the formation of our self-esteem and self-acceptance. It shapes how we seek to love and whether we feel part of our lives or more like an outsider.
The true self lies hidden beneath the codependent self until it can be safely coaxed to awaken to its full aliveness.
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When our self-esteem is low, which is typical of codependency, we’re at greater risk for depression.
Codependency is a dynamic where one or both persons in the relationship feel an excessive and unhealthy responsibility for the other person’s life.