95% or more of our mind is Unconscious, this vast part of our mind, which we have little awareness of, contains riches beyond imagination.
“The fact of the matter is that our unconscious is wiser than we are about everything.”
― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
Our subconscious or unconscious mind communicates with us in the form of instincts, intuition, dreams or gut feelings. It can send an important message to us in the form of sudden flashes of insight or certain fragment of thoughts that pop in our mind or certain sensations that we feel in our bodies.
But most of the time we do not pay any heed to this “small little voice” that guides us from within only to regret later.
It is very important that we learn to become aware of our instincts and gut feelings and take their help in any important decision-making process rather than just going with our logical reasoning.
One important area of life where our instincts can guide us effectively and easily is our intimate relationships.
It happens quite often that in the initial phases of our relationships we are under the spell of euphoria and we tend to overlook any red flags or warning signs that our instinct is trying to show us.
Here are 10 common ways our gut feeling or instinct speaks to us:
If you feel you can relate to any one or more signs here, and then take a long and hard look at your relationship, reassess its quality and take appropriate action.
1) You find it hard to trust your partner
Trust, communication, and respect are the foundations on which a strong relationship is built.
If you feel that you can’t get yourself to trust your partner, then know that it will be really hard for the relationship’s foundation to stay together.
We all falter sometimes and no one is perfect but if more often than not your partner lets you down and your instincts tell you that they are not being honest with you, it is time you paid heed to your gut feelings.
If you feel that your partner’s words and actions don’t match or they lack consistency or integrity, then you need to really reassess your relationship and move on, girl!
2) You feel drained after talking to them or spending time with them
It happens so many times that when we spend time with someone and come back home we feel so drained and exhausted even though they may have said and done all the right things. This is because our body has a way of picking up on negative energy and bad vibes.
If you feel drained or exhausted after spending time with your partner, it could be your body’s way of making you wary of bad vibes and telling you to proceed with caution.
3). You feel bored in your relationship, most of the time
If you find yourself spending more time on your phone and office instead of looking forward to spending time with your partner, it means that you don’t have enough spark in your relationship.
You know how you have a level of comfort and ease with your bestie, you never run out of things to say to each other and want to spend as much time with them as possible, you should have that excitement and comfort level with your sweetheart too.
If you feel bored most of the time in your relationship, it could be your instincts telling you to reconsider your relationship.
4). You constantly think about what your life would be if you were “Single”
If you constantly think about how your life would be “without” your partner or think about dating other people or getting back on Tinder just to add some fun in your life, it could be a sign that you are not that happy in your relationship as you pretend to be.
It is ok to miss the freedom of single life sometimes but if you constantly fantasize about how your life would be if you were single, you really need to evaluate if you’re in the right relationship babe!