No relationship in this world ever remains warm and close unless good effort is made on both sides to keep it so. —Eleanor Roosevelt.
Not all relationships start out one-sided, but most end this way.
It’s usually a product of one person falling madly and deeply in love, rather than sharing their partner’s less intense feelings of slight infatuation. When a person is so carried away in love that he goes on giving and soon losses perspective.
A one-sided relationship can be exhausting for the person who is not in control. You begin to feel like things are unfair when it comes to the balance of your love.
If you’re feeling a bit off-balance, here are 10 possible signs that you’re in a one-sided relationship.
(1) You can’t count on them but you are always there for them:
You always have their back; you make them your priority but they don’t reciprocate. By this time, you have understood that you can’t rely on them for help. You know they will not be there for you always like you do.
(2) You have involved them in your life but they have kept you away from theirs:
Your peers know them; you are always inviting them to your close get-togethers. But they don’t make any effort to know more about you and keeps their private life a secret. You don’t have any idea about their family members and friends. Sometimes you feel you are just like their colleague or an acquaintance to them. If this is so, then you can be anyone to them but not their special someone.
(3) You always make time for them but they are “too busy” to be with you:
Nobody is “too busy.” If they really want to be with you, they will make time for you. You manage time for them but they give one alibi or another to skip the date. If they can’t make time for you, isn’t that obvious they are not into the relationship?
(4) You are always on your guards when you are with them:
They don’t give you the space to open up to them. You are always on your guards when you are with them, thinking how they would feel and react. You hide your true self, those crazy sides you have fearing they will get turned off. If you can’t be comfortable with the person you are closest to, then what’s the point in keeping the relationship alive?
(5) ‘Sorry’ is your frequently used word:
You have to apologise every now and then. They are always finding flaws in simplest and silliest of things. If you are always saying ‘sorry’ to the person you intend to spend your whole life with, you are doing no good to yourself. A person who loves you truly is supposed to make you feel good about yourself, not the other way round.
(6) You think twice before talking to them:
They are so busy that they don’t find enough time to make a quick call. If you call them, they will make you feel guilty of disturbing them. You are not even nagging them or demanding most of their time; it’s just a phone call but they don’t give a positive response to it too. If they are so distant, then perhaps it’s time you think about the relationship.
(7) You feel that the relationship is more like an obligation for them:
From making plans to do something or asking them to go somewhere with you, you are the one who is taking the initiatives. You are the one who is doing everything to keep the relationship alive. Their ignorance and indifference make you feel that the relationship has become an obligation for them. And if you are feeling so, then probably, it is the reality. Perhaps it’s better to let them be on their own.
(8) You have to justify their behaviour to your peers:
Your family and friends are always questioning their behaviour and you have to force yourself in justifying them. When someone truly loves you, it shows. People understand. You don’t have to act like their lawyers.
Holding on to one-sided love is painful; it exhausts us. Letting go is difficult but sometimes, it’s the best decision for our own good.
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