How Committed Is He? Find Out With These Long-Term Love Signals

 October 02, 2018

How Committed Is He Find out With These Long-Term Love Signals



Men are notorious for being commitment-shy, but is this reputation truly fair and deserved?




For some men, it certainly is, but not for all of them — not by a long shot. The trouble is, many men aren’t the type to come right out and put their deepest feelings, hopes and desires into words, especially regarding relationships and commitment. This makes it tough, especially for women, to interpret their relationship signals — to read between the lines of what they say and do in order to gain insight into their intentions. It’s not that men’s and women’s relationship needs are so vastly different; it’s more that the two sexes communicate in such different ways that it can be next to impossible to understand one another. Whether you blame it on gender differences, Mars vs. Venus, or any other paradigm, the end result is the same: Often, men and women simply aren’t speaking the same language.

 

Unfortunately, there are those men who say one thing, but whose behavior and body language broadcast something else entirely. We’ve all heard of these playboy types, if not encountered them directly; though they have a variety of names — players, womanizers, Don Juans, Casanovas, skirt-chasers, and a variety of terms unmentionable in polite company — they’re all the same. Or are they? If your man promises a long-term commitment but his behavior suggests otherwise, is he lying to you — purposely, knowingly misleading you? It’s certainly possible. It’s more likely, however, that he doesn’t mean to be deceptive. He might simply be telling you what he thinks you want to hear, in a misguided attempt to avoid hurting your feelings. He might even be telling you something he truly believes — in his head, while his heart of hearts holds an entirely different truth.

 

It’s a good thing, then, that behavior and body language tend to speak more loudly than words. Regardless of what your man might be telling you in words, if you know what signals to look for, you can determine whether he sees a future with you — and whether that future is merely a vague possibility in his eyes or something real and true, something he fervently hopes for and is working toward, with both eyes open and heart fully invested.

The following are some typical signals men send out in love affairs that speak to their level of commitment to the relationship.

A) Signals that he’s just in it for the moment, and commitment is unlikely:

1.  You’re always the one asking him to get together; he rarely initiates making plans with you.

2. He always invites you out to group events, such as clubs, dinner parties or music shows, instead of one-on-one dates that might give you a better chance to talk and connect.

3. When you do spend time alone together, he avoids meaningful conversation and soulful eye contact or acts as if he wishes he were somewhere else.

4. When you’re together, he often cuts the date short because “something just came up.”

5. He rarely agrees to get together with you and your friends, though you spend plenty of time with his buddies.




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