How A Narcissist’s Mind Operates During A Crisis: Since a narcissist relies on a huge amount of narcissistic supply to function, how do you think they cope when there is an absolute dearth of it?
My heart goes out to all of you who are dealing with a narcissist during this pandemic, and that’s why I passionately wanted to reach out to you with this topic today!
Narcissists need a regular hit of narcissistic supply, so what happens when the narcissist can’t go about narcissistic business as usual because of uncontrollable events?
In this episode, I explain to you how self-isolation and job loss can impact their minds and affect co-parenting. Plus, how to protect yourself from nasty hoovering tactics that can impact you and your children.
The Inner Gnawing Trauma
There are some people who find it difficult to spend time alone without distractions. This is always for the same reason, because of the difficulty to find peace with one’s Inner Being.
Narcissists take this discomfort to an extreme. The reason why is because their inner True Self has been discarded by the narcissist. They believe that this Inner Identity is not sufficient to cope in life. This is why there has been the construction and activation of a False Self in its place.
This False Self is always hungry. The narcissist needs the regular hit of narcissistic supply – which means the attention (good or bad it makes no difference) from outside forces to be able to bolster the narcissist’s feelings of personal significance.
The problem is this is a never-ending requirement. Because there is no True Self at the helm, the narcissist is snapped off from being able to source his or her good feelings directly through Life-Force/Source /Consciousness, in other words, his or her Higher Self.
Therefore, real and lasting feelings of peace, wholeness and well-being are impossible.
Because of this, the narcissist’s inner self-annihilating critic is always threatening to emerge, with the feedback that reminds the narcissist just how inadequate, broken, defective, and unacceptable he or she is.
Narcissistic supply is the drug that the narcissist frenetically hunts and feeds on to numb out and escape the truth about him or herself. This is a relentless lifetime pursuit for a narcissist.
As we are about to examine, this situation with COVID-19 makes the obtaining of narcissistic supply extremely difficult.
What Self-Isolation Means to a Narcissist
Being unable to be out in the world garnishing narcissistic supply is a narcissist’s worst nightmare.
In lockdown, not only is narcissistic supply harder to come by, it also means that the narcissist is being “told what to do”.
Narcissists hate being pinned down. They hate having to follow rules and regulations, in a way that goes way over and above the normal feelings that self-isolation might bring up for people.
Narcissists believe that they are a law unto themselves, above reproach, and not answerable to anybody. To go along with the requirements for the rest of the world means that they would become just like everybody else.
This is unthinkable for a narcissist.
So, what does this time of COVID-19 amount to for a narcissist?