Pain is not always inflicted by physical abuse, emotional abuse hurts equally if not more. In fact in most of the cases the effect of emotional abuse lasts longer. Depression, emotional abuses have proven to be damaging by doctors and researchers.
Unfortunately, most people in a toxic relationship suffering from emotional abuse don’t realize this until they are far too deep in it.
Listed below are 20 signs you need to be careful of, in your relationship.
They might not be clear indicatives of abuse, but if one faces these or many of these regularly, it might mean something coming up very soon. Identify the subtle signs, and make amends before its too late.
1. They be little your accomplishments. Your achievements and accomplishments are not celebrated but just passed on as another event.
2. Somehow, you’re always responsible for their sadness, you’re always to be blamed.
3. They claim to know you better and believe that the decisions they make for you are best. They deprive you of making your own choices.
4. They need you to answer their calls or text messages right away, even a short delay makes them angry.
5. They always try to be above you, time and again they will try to make you think that you don’t really deserve to have them as their partner but it’s just your luck that they are with you.
6. You’re to be blamed for everything and often you’re accused of doing things that you didn’t do.
7. No secret is safe or off-limits, the share your private details like your fears, insecurities, secrets and even intimate moments with others.
8. You cannot ignore what they say even if it’s just a ‘suggestion’. For you fear how may they react or feel.
9. They don’t hesitate from criticizing you in public, making faces of disagreement and disapproving or just rolling eye.
10. You are often called by names, this is actually cute but they do it on purpose and often even use abusive language.
11. They need to know everything about you, they want to be included in everything you do.
12. They get irritated and angry when you tease them, even in loving ways.
13. They often punish you by not talking to you or withholding love, care, and sex
14. If you get in an argument you always lose, there is no other way around and you’re the one to apologize, always!
15. They take control of finance, you’re questioned for every expense.
16. If they hate a person so should you, if they don’t like anyone of your family members you’re not allowed to talk to them.
17. They convince you that your dreams are unworthy and impractical, they diminish your ambitions.
18. Every time you try to pour your hurt to them, they dismiss you as being too emotional or sensitive.
19. You fear to fail in front of them. You’re not confident that they will hold you when you fall but instead leave you there when you fall.
20. They control your major life decisions including your career choices.
I, lived this, life.. for 33, years. It, progressively got, worse. From, morning until night, I was called, names. He, be little everything that I, did. I, was a prisoner.. in my own, home. I, did something I never did before… I, stood up to him, and went, crazy. He, then decided that I was, done. He, hated me. He, spread, rumors. Even, called our daughter, and told her, lies. He, recorded, me. He, stopped paying for, anything. He, made friends with people who didnt know, me. He convinced them that I was, bad. He, hired, prostitutes, and justified it, as me being a, bitch. He, quit paying for our, home… and we were evicted at, gun point. He, left me and his, son.. in, a motel. He, ended up having a cardiac arrest, and in a coma. His, life was in my, hands. He, died 8 days, later, when we pulled life support. I, struggle with depression, anxiety, and PTSD., I, couldnt leave. He, would get me so upset, my mind would go into a paralyzed, state.
Emotional abuse is never easy to get over. So glad I got divorced.
She tried to warn me about the VC, next time I won’t be so quick to think I know it all, How fooled was I by a ************************. 6 1/2 yrs of shiiiiiiiiiit. Sad for my son.
relationship shld not be toxic…..bcz life iz beautifullll.njoy it wid fullllll volume.
I have been treated like this from many people… Wake up if it’s happening to you.