Can we choose to be empathic? Can we decide to empathize with some, but not with others? Empathy is a choice and there’s a growing body of scientific evidence to prove it.
Yes. Empathy is a choice
Human beings are programmed to feel empathy. We often try to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and feel what the other person is going through. Empathy is one of the most essential qualities we have as humans. Yet when tragedies occur around the world we don’t feel the same volume of empathy we might feel for someone we know.
“While a single crying child or injured puppy tugs at our heartstrings, large numbers of suffering people, as in epidemics, earthquakes and genocides, do not inspire a comparable reaction,” explain psychologists Daryl Cameron, Michael Inzlicht and William A. Cunningham in a New York Times post.
Research reveals that the intensity of a tragedy or natural disaster is not the major factor that influences empathy in most people. TV coverage of natural disasters can be a strong evidence of this fact as well. Often reporters cover news of disasters that are of less intensity more than tragedies that have claimed more lives. Professor William C. Adams of George Washington University has “found that news coverage was in direct relation to how much United States citizens cared about each country.” This goes to show that we tend to empathize more with those with whom we can relate with or who are similar to us in terms of beliefs, perceptions and personalities.
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We avoid empathy by choice
According to a study, empathy is a choice and most people tend to be misers when it comes to empathy. Another 2019 study found that we might avoid empathy when given a choice. Why? Because empathy can be not only emotionally taxing, but it can also have a heavy cognitively cost as well. The study stated “Experimentally increasing empathy efficacy eliminated empathy avoidance, suggesting that cognitive costs directly cause empathy choice. When given the choice to share others’ feelings, people act as if it is not worth the effort.”
One 2014 scientific analysis shows that intergroup dynamics shape empathic failures and counter-empathic responses. Study authors M.Cikara and colleagues point out that –
- Competitive intergroup contexts leads to an intergroup empathy bias.
- We tend to show higher levels of empathy for in-group targets and lower levels of empathy for out-groups.
- Empathy bias is often motivated by out-group antipathy
- Empathy bias can reduce in intensity due to reduced group entitativity.
The researchers said that this study “establishes the boundary conditions of intergroup empathy bias and provides initial support for a more integrative framework of group-based empathy.”
The evidence reveals that our empathy is a choice as it is greatly influenced by upbringing, culture, nationality, race etc. The New York Times post explains “These results suggest that empathy is a limited resource, like a fossil fuel, which we cannot extend indefinitely or to everyone.”
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However, empathy is not only determined by our experiences and upbringing. It also depends on our genes. One study has discovered that how empathetic we are as a person partly depends on our genetic code. The study conducted by a team of researchers at the University of Cambridge came to the conclusion after analyzing 46,000 participants.
Lead researcher Varun Warrier says “This is an important step towards understanding the small but important role that genetics plays in empathy. But keep in mind that only a tenth of individual differences in empathy in the population are due to genetics. It will be equally important to understand the non-genetic factors that explain the other 90%.”
Empathy is taxing
The truth is, as life becomes more comfortable and complicated for us, we are increasingly choosing to pull away from one of the most human traits – empathy. One new study has found that empathy is a choice and we are opting more to avoid it. C. Daryl Cameron, PhD, lead author of the study, says “There is a common assumption that people stifle feelings of empathy because they could be depressing or costly, such as making donations to charity. But we found that people primarily just don’t want to make the mental effort to feel empathy toward others, even when it involves feeling positive emotions.”