11) Playing the victim.
An extension of point 9, the abuser is ALWAYS the victim; they never get what they want (even though they do) and they are always the ones who compromise (even though they absolutely don’t).
Rings bells, doesn’t it?
12) Lack of emotional self-control.
Never try and have a debate with these people if you aren’t ideologically equal because as soon as you take a step out of the bubble of submissiveness they WILL make you regret it. Be certain of that.
It can be in the form of shouting, crying or throwing tantrums etc, but it WILL happen.
13) They make superficial judgments.
Just to maintain their position as the high, mighty and immaculate.
14) They are often cruel.
Again, they will go to immense lengths to keep the gulf between you and them tangible.
This can range from snide remarks in social surroundings to plain physical or even in the worst cases of sexual abuse.
15) They are perfect. End of discussion.
Any possibility of blemishing their visages and abusive individuals will lash out till their immaculate, untouchable, and superior images are restored.
16) Their image is VERY important to them.
No matter what, when it comes to common society, you are inferior to them. No matter what you achieve, there is always something wrong with you and they will point it out.
The simple reason behind it: you being flawed, makes them look better in front of your friends.
17) You are but a pawn.
To fulfill their needs and wants. To be at their beck and call.
To worship them with your soul and emotional energy, till you die inside thousand times even before you actually die.
18) Complicated relationship with compliments.
If anyone except them receives accolades, they would be sure to point out some flaws that would make you feel that you really don’t deserve it.
If it’s them, however, keep the lines flowing.
19) They have excuses for everything they do.
They always do or say things “for a reason.”
You deserve the murk they throw you in “because you had it coming.” Not because they are bad human beings.
20) Love for drama.
Abusers and narcissists love to see the conflicts they cause and revel in it because well it’s a lot of hullabaloo over something they did; in simpler terms, it makes them the nucleus of attention.
So recognize the signs, and cut these people off from your life while there is time left.
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