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Why You MUST Cut Ties With A Toxic Family Member

Cut Ties With Toxic Family Member

Do some people steal your happiness and mental peace every time they’re around? Despite how close or important a toxic family member is in your life, sometimes it is okay to cut them off to recover from abuse and protect your sanity and self-esteem.

Is your family toxic?

Family always comes first. Our parents, siblings, partner, or even our friends hold a very special place in most of our lives. They support us through the dark tides of life and give meaning to our life. Unfortunately, for some of us, this definition of family may not be applicable as our family lives are riddled with drama, hatred, arguments, abuse, manipulation, and even domestic violence.

Having toxic family members can be emotionally draining and make you feel angry, sad, betrayed, guilty, hurt, and confused. Studies have found that family instability can negatively affect our well-being. In fact, in the long run, it can adversely affect your physical, emotional, and mental health and lead to the development of chronic stress, anxiety, and depression.

Children who experience early life toxic stress are at risk of long-term adverse health effects that may not manifest until adulthood,” explains a 2014 study.

Research also shows that poor family relationships can have long-term negative effects on the sufferer’s health and increases the risk of premature death. According to another 2017 study, toxic family relationships can result in stress, reduced self-esteem, unhealthy coping behaviors, and reduced overall wellbeing. “Family relationships are enduring and consequential for well-being across the life course,” adds the study.

A toxic family member will not hesitate to manipulate and exploit you. They will never think twice about polluting and corrupting the sacred loving bond you share with them. Even when you are emotionally hurt, they will not step back as they realize you are stuck with them because they are your family.

When you allow such toxic family members to abuse you whenever they want, they will not stop sucking out every ounce of happiness you have in your life. Unless you set clear & strong boundaries and remove yourself from that environment, they will continue to ruin your life.

Related: Toxic Family Ties: When to Let Go Abusive Family Relationships

Why you should cut off a toxic family member

Why You MUST Cut Ties With A Toxic Family Member
Why You MUST Cut Ties With A Toxic Family Member

Even though we may know what we need to do to protect ourselves, we often wonder whether it is morally and ethically right to cut ties with a toxic family member. But it is never about what is right or wrong as it is a very subjective issue. What matters here is what is best for you and your mental health.

Some people behave the way they do because that is how they are. They may have a narcissistic personality or they may like to feel superior by putting you down. But it is not about them, it is about YOU.

It is about you taking charge of your life. It is about refusing to accept abuse and negativity in your life. It is about creating your own happiness. And the unfortunate fact is, once you cut ties with the toxic person, they will find someone else to abuse and feed the ego. Even though it may create a void in your life, cutting ties will not make any significant difference in theirs.

So instead of putting up with the toxicity on a daily basis, define what behavior is acceptable for you and remove the rest. If the issue can be resolved through an open discussion, then you must communicate honestly with them about how their behavior affects you.

However, if that is not an option, you need to walk away for yourself. You should always choose YOU as you are the only permanent thing in your life. Instead of turning a blind eye towards their abusive & manipulative behavior and pretending that everything’s still fine, realize that walking away is OKAY!

It doesn’t make you a horrible, selfish person. It makes you human. Someone who is simply looking to protect themselves. 

Related: 10 Signs of Toxic Family Enmeshment and How It May Impact You As An Adult

Why You Should Cut Ties With Toxic Family Members

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Signs of a toxic family member

If you are still having difficulty realizing how this relationship is draining your mind and destroying your life, here are a few reasons that will help you gain insight-

1. They manipulate you 

They are master manipulators and will use an array of strategies, like guilt and denial, to distort the truth in their favor. They will make you seem like the abuser, while they will pretend to be the victim even though they are the abusive ones in the relationship.

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Theo Harrison

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