“When someone is rude, keep a smile on your face. When you stay on the high road and keep your joy, you take away their power.” – Joel Osteen
There is no telling whether a relationship that starts out in a loving manner would continue to be so in the long run, be it, family, friends, or your partner. For one moment you might find a person very caring and would want to spend more time with them and the next moment they might, out of the blue, say something that offends you so much that you wouldn’t want to see them anymore. Well, rude people are indeed very unpredictable.
For example, questions like ‘How come you didn’t find a job yet?’ or ‘How did you gain so much weight?’ might leave a sour taste in your mouth and trigger your anger. Most people hardly think before speaking and this can have disastrous effects on just on the relationship you share with them, but also on your psyche and emotions.
When someone offends you, you have every right to defend yourself but remember that you can always be polite while reacting to such remarks. Even though it can be very tough to be nice and polite to rude people, dealing with them in a positive manner will only help you be the bigger person, and will also make them realize their mistakes.
But finding the right way to retort to such people isn’t always easy especially when the person who mistreated you is your boss or someone with whom you can’t afford to break ties.
The following list states eight points that would help you deal with such rude people:
1. Thank You.
A simple ‘thank you’ reflects a lot of maturity on your part. When a person is rude to you and you react with a ‘thank you’ it not only indicates that you chose not to ignore that person but you didn’t let their words affect you either.
This would make the other person go silent as he/she would realize that their remarks did not have the desired effect on you. Moreover, it would be beneficial for you as well as you will stay positive and you do not let rudeness overwhelm you.
2. End The Conversation.
When you are incapable of reacting politely to what someone said, it is always better to put an end to the conversation immediately. Doing so, you make sure that things don’t turn bitter and ruin the relationship and at the same time, you make it quite clear that you neither do you agree with that person and nor do you endorse his/her views.
Ending the conversation then and there is one of the best ways to take back your power, and not let rude people have a negative impact on you, with their horrible words and vicious actions.
3. You Almost Hurt My Feelings.
Although this carries a bit of sarcasm, it is quite effective when it comes to shutting down rude people. Firstly, you avoid their negativity and on top of that, you discourage the other person from making any more such remarks as clearly, by showing them that their words do not affect you at all.
Your nonchalant attitude will make them do a double-take, and they will think twice before insulting you again with their rudeness. When they see that you are not reacting to their harsh words, they will lose the motivation to showcase their rudeness further,
4. Yes, You’re Right.
Although it might be incredibly difficult to say so and neither would you derive much satisfaction from this but this ensures that the conversation is cut short and the other person is disappointed as he/she could not elicit the desired reaction from you.
Sometimes, the best way to deal with negative people is by making them feel that they won, while you don’t only know the truth but also hold on to your mental and emotional peace. Reacting to rude people will only make you feel more exhausted and drained.