We are all judgmental in our own ways. We judge others by their actions and most of the times paint judgments about others. The worst part is that we spread these judgments that we have made about someone and we create the world full of judgement.
This is surely a negative world that we create; the world full of bias and prejudice. It is surely difficult for the person who is being judged to survive in such a negative environment. But the repercussions of judging someone also come on us. We carry grudges and negativity and both of them are not good for us.
Without even realizing this, we continue to call our judgments as our opinions and spread them far and wide, thus creating the world which surely isn’t a good place to live in.
Why should we avoid this?
We must attempt to reduce judgments because we must realize that we are all of a similar nature. What will hurt us will surely hurt the other people as well. But we don’t realize this and continue to make judgments on others.
Sometimes this can even mangle the confidence of the person we are judging and that is surely not good at all.
Should we stop this?
Yes. We totally should try to stop judging, however hard it may be to break the habit.
How should we deal with this?
Well, here are some ways to deal with judgment.
1. Release your own judgment:
This means that you must first learn to judge yourself. Most of the times, we are so busy finding flaws in others that we totally forget to put ourselves under the scanner. Only when we put ourselves under the purview, we will realize that there is so much within us that we should change.
Also, you would also realize that the flaws that we had been observing and criticizing in people were actually within us all along. This realization will surely help you become a far better person and will also help you to focus on yourself and your own potential rather than thinking about others and wasting your precious time in judging others.
2. Switch your focus to the positive:
Even when you are judging people, start doing a simple exercise. Begin by seeing the good in them. Look out for qualities that you adulate and want to emulate as well. This will certainly help you learn new things and this will make you far more positive in your approach towards people.
The moment you will start seeing someone positively, you will shun all negativity that the process of judgment promotes. Once you will be out of the negativity circle, there is nothing but excellence that awaits you.
3. Don’t take personal offense:
If you are the person who is being judged and you come to know about it, don’t take a personal offense. Understand the simple fact that people judge others when they actually have deeply embedded flaws in themselves. Because they want to run away from their own flaws, they project that negativity on other people. People who judge are probably just trying to belittle you but don’t let them.