Here’s the thing: you’re quiet. You don’t function the same way others do. And that’s perfectly okay. You’re an introvert – and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Here are signs you are an introvert.
If you’ve just discovered the magical and empowering word “introvert,” I want you to know that you’re in good company.
Did you know that between 25% to 40% of people are introverts? And even those people in your life who seem loud and outgoing might be introverts too. (More on that soon!)
So the question is that now you’ve discovered you’re an introvert … then what?
What do you do with that knowledge?
As an introvert with a mission, my job is to help you.
What is an Introvert?
The word introvert comes from the Latin intro (to the inside) and vertere (to turn). So in essence, introversion refers to the tendency to turn within; to live a rich inner life. Psychologically, the word introvert was popularized in the 1920s by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung proposed that there were two main personality types: introverts and extroverts. Everyone has a tendency to lean toward either side of the spectrum. These days, an introvert is understood as a person who is quiet, enjoys spending time alone or with a couple of close friends, and prefers calm environments.
As I write in my book Quiet Strength:
If you are an introvert, you are born with a temperament that craves to be alone, delights in meaningful connections, thinks before speaking, and observes before approaching. If you are an introvert, you thrive in the inner sanctuary of the mind, heart, and spirit, but shrink in the external world of noise, drama, and chaos. As an introvert, you are sensitive, perceptive, gentle, and reflective. You prefer to operate behind the scenes, preserve your precious energy, and influence the world in a quiet, but powerful way.
19 Signs You are an Introvert
Here are signs to look out for:
- You crave to spend time alone after a busy day
- You find small talk incredibly taxing
- You are perceptive and notice things other’s miss
- You feel overwhelmed in a big crowd of people
- You dislike noisy and fast-paced environments
- You often need space to think and process
- You’re an intense person
- Your interests and hobbies don’t depend on others
- If you can avoid a get-together/party, you will
- Networking makes you feel uncomfortable
- You prefer to take life slowly and steadily
- You have a small number of friends
- You find people draining
- You tend to overthink everything
- You possess a high level of self-awareness
- You tend to ruminate and obsess
- Topics such as science, philosophy, and spirituality interest you
- You hate being the center of attention
- You’re a good listener, but struggle to speak your thoughts
How many of these introvert signs can you relate to? Share in the comments!
15 Myths About Introverts
We’re the creative Dr. Seuss’, the soulful singing Adeles, and the eccentric Salvador Dalis. We constitute a great percentage of the world’s best thinkers, philosophers, scientists, and artists. Yet we find ourselves bullied, belittled, and misdiagnosed as being socially inept and even threatening.
If one of the highest instincts in mankind is self-preservation, it’s no wonder that many people fear what they don’t understand: the quiet introvert.
Here are the top 15 myths about introverts summarized:
- Myth 1 – Introverts are arrogant
- Myth 2 – Introverts are rude (they’re surly and ill-mannered)
- Myth 3 – Introverts always want to be alone
- Myth 4 – Introverts don’t like to go out (they’re agoraphobic)
- Myth 5 – Introverts have no friends (they’re losers)
- Myth 6 – Introverts are depressive people
- Myth 7 – Introverts are weirdos
- Myth 8 – Introverts hate people (they’re misanthropes)
- Myth 9 – Introverts don’t like to talk (they have nothing to say)
- Myth 10 – Introverts are uptight party-poopers (they can’t have fun)
- Myth 11 – Introverts are mentally inept (they’re stupid)
- Myth 12 – Introverts are sneaky (they’re sly and devious)
- Myth 13 – Introverts are shy
- Myth 14 – Introverts have low self-esteem
- Myth 15 – Introversion is an affliction that can be fixed
Read more about these myths below:
Myth #1: Introverts are arrogant
Truth: We’re socially cautious
It’s true that introverts can come across as being cold or aloof, but this is because we’re preoccupied with thinking and processing information internally. We also like to keep to ourselves around people who aren’t close to us and take great precautions in uncharted territory. This makes us appear standoffish, for sure, but our silence isn’t snobbish self-aggrandizement. If we don’t interact with you much, it isn’t because we dislike or think we’re too good for you. It just means that we’re still cautious of you or simply want to keep to ourselves.