Being an authentic empath is not easy. Ignorance only makes it worse. So, in case you have recently found out that you are an empath, here is a list of things you must know:
1. Empaths can’t help taking on the energy of others
The thing is, you don’t just sense other people’s emotions- you start feeling them too. This can get pretty trying at times. You can’t be in the company of someone who is feeling sad without finding yourself near tears as well. And the very next instant, you might want to laugh out loud because another person next to you is just so happy.
These instant mood swings are exhausting and drain your energy like nothing else. But don’t worry, with the time you’d learn to control your empathetic impulses and it won’t be so bad.
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2. Your intuition is always spot on
Of course, all of us come with some extent of intuition which guides us through every day. But in the case of an authentic empath, it is completely off the charts. They know what is happening; even if there have been no clear verbal indicators.
Being an empath, you’d learn to observe that you are picking up messages psychically. No matter what someone is saying, you’d always be able to clearly understand their true intentions. This is because you are tuned into the emotions of others and there is scarcely anything that can go unnoticed by you.
3. Being around people is tiring and you feel drained often
Being around people, especially a large crowd is an ordeal for you. As explained above, you feel the emotions of others and this constant up and down of emotions and being around different people is enough to tire anyone.
Even more important is the fact that since you can feel what others are feeling, you can’t help but try to help them; doesn’t matter whether they asked you for it or not. You want to help everyone you meet and you spend a lot of your own energy dealing with the problems which aren’t yours. You need to learn to cut back on this for your own good.
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4. You find yourself being surrounded by people who are broken
As the direct result of the previous point, people who need help and emotional strength naturally gravitate towards you. Even strangers will be attracted to you because they can sense that you’d listen to them and provide possible relief. As noble as it is to help others, sometimes you need to help yourself first. And how do you do that?
Again, you need to show restraint. When the universe gets the message that you are not willing to help only people who are very close to you, the others will automatically back off.
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5. You don’t do well around crowds
Most people are happy to be a part of a crowd. The feeling of belonging draws people in thousands towards crowded events such as parties, concerts and the likes. Not to an empath though. For empaths, crowds can be very hard to process. They feel like they are being assaulted by various energies from every direction.
In order to protect yourself from the energies of the crowd, you can try wearing a protective stone on your person. They are very effective in shielding you from the energy of others.
6. You can’t simply live anywhere
While relocating, the dimensions of the new house and proximity to the nearest Starbucks are not the only things on your mind. For you, it is important that the energy of a place doesn’t hit you negatively. This means that living in a house where violent crime was committed (no matter how long ago) is completely out of the question.
Overall, an authentic empath prefers living in areas with low population densities. And the hustle and bustle of city life is not particularly attractive to them.
Every point listed is SPOT ON! I am an empath and this article covered all of the points.
You are 100% correct. I have every single character trait you wrote about. As a small child I lived in a house that would cause me tremendous pain. Like something or someone was sharing there last painful moments on this planet with me. I ended up being sent to a children’s home because my family thought I was going crazy! It wasn’t until I was 17 did I find out I was an empath. And 2 months after that through my own research, I found out that the lady who owned the house 45 years before I grew up in, was viciously murdered and she was tortured by her captives for 3 days until they set her on fire to destroy the evidence. My family still refuses to validate that I am not suffering from a mental disease or phycological defect. I’m 38 now. And after years of feeling like I was a freak of nature. I now make a living helping out other empaths learn to deflect the affects of others emotional baggage that they could absorb and cause them to be depressed or have crippling anxiety attack and have no history of them. Being an EMPATH is a gift from GOD!!! Please don’t ever feel like your less than. Because you are actually a one in a million, human being that God blessed before you were ever born into this world. We are the true healers of the world.
Very well put, and your insight is clear and recognizable by another gifted empath-
The reason I am now moving back to the countryside to build a small sustainable house. It does take time to learn how to protect yourself.
This is me completely. People drain me, when I meet someone I can hear their thoughts and I k ow them. I feel deeply, I hurt deeply, I know what others are feeling and I share it to the point of being destroyed by so many at. The same time. I long to be living in the sun, quiet and peace….
Same here <3
This is so me. My husband always said that I am being paranoid and anti-social.
Oh my goodness, this just described my life to the letter! I just thought i was a strange person.
Its important for empathy to latch on to an art form for self-expression. It allows your mind to have an outlet for pouring all the energy and emotions you’ve experienced and lowers stress. Then, you are more easily able to attend a ballgame, church, a party or whatever else that might come up. It asks I helps Empath tolzrate the less sensitive people in their family or friend circle as well.
l have always loved arts and crafts always content when i am creating something.
Haha Spot On.
Yeah I do feel so much like it everyday buh l close it in l just don’t want to be judged by those around me
oh man I find it difficult to keep head above water. as a pharmacist working 12 hour shifts sometimes and listening to people’s health complaints and wanting miracle cures and complaints the whole day drains every bit of energy. I was born hypersensitive so most people don’t understand that I’m different and don’t function like them. my personal life is a mess. I neglect my partner cause of constant misunderstandings so now reading articles like this gives me the opportunity to learn to cope. tnx. I feel better knowing that there’s other people also struggling to cope
So so true… I still struggle with it in a big way…. Too much sometimes, n yea only seem to dra… https://t.co/AOkyi2mRKo
Hi, hope you are keeping well! Just want to say hi as it’s nice to know I’m not alone here .