People aren’t exaggerating when they say their mothers-in-law are actually monsters-in-law. While not all of them are wicked, many do drain the life out of you with all their toxicity. Having a toxic mother-in-law can wreak havoc on your married life, and will not just make it difficult for you to have a relationship with her, it will also end up affecting your bond with your husband.
That is why it is crucial to know the signs that point towards you having a toxic mother-in-law. The better you understand her judgemental, controlling, and poisonous nature, the better you will be able to handle her.
Here Are 10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law
1. She’ll never admit it when she’s wrong.
A toxic mother-in-law will never admit she has made a mistake, ever; apologizing is something she does not believe in. Even if she’s made a huge mistake, she’ll still insist that she was right in doing whatever she did. She would rather put you down, and humiliate you, but being accountable for her actions? Never!
She could start World War III but she’ll still argue that she is not in the wrong, and it’s others who are the problem. She’ll simply put the blame on your or your spouse.
2. She won’t bother listening to you.
No matter how right you are, she’ll simply dismiss your opinion. Most of the time, she won’t pay attention to you just to prove that she doesn’t care about you, and what your saying doesn’t matter to her even in the slightest. For her, you are nobody important or relevant, and all she cares about is her own opinions and judgments.
You could shout in her ear but she’ll just ignore you. If you’ve achieved something, no matter how big of a deal it is, she’ll just underplay it to everyone she knows. But if something is important to her, you can be sure that you’ll hear about it all the time.
3. She’ll never consider you worthy of her family.
You know you have a toxic mother-in-law, when she always makes you feel as if you are not and will never be good enough for her son. nor will you ever be worthy of being a part of her family. Be it subtly or directly, she will always make you feel unwelcome and unwanted, no matter how hard you might try to impress her and be in her good books.
It will feel like there’s a poster on the front door announcing this to the whole wide world. But don’t let this toxicity get to you. Keep your chin up, and your head held high. Work on your confidence, and approach this with humor, and make fun of it. She will never be able to beat that.
4. She expects you to be entirely submissive towards her.
In order to impose her dominant nature on you, she will expect you to be subservient to her, and by subservient, you will have to do whatever she tells you to do. This will include never speaking against her, accepting all her opinions, behaving just like her, and always flattering her. If you go against her, or don’t listen to what she is telling you to do, then all hell will break loose.
You’ll have to be with her, go for every little party she’s been invited to, cook only with her recipes, follow her cleaning techniques, and basically be her minion. Also, you’ll have to make sure she has the grandkids she’s asked for. It doesn’t really matter what you want and if you don’t do any of these things, you can be sure that her entire social circle will know what a horrible daughter-in-law you are.
5. She will denigrate you whenever she feels like.
If she can’t establish her dominance over you, then the rivalry will intensify in her head. She’ll take it all a step further, and keep on belittling you whenever she gets a chance. It won’t matter that what she is saying is totally false, as long as you are getting humiliated and insulted, she will be the happiest person in the world.
Soon enough, all kinds of bad reports about you will start to come in from every single person she’s ever met. People who don’t even know you will have a very negative impression about you. She will even try to manipulate your husband into thinking that you are not the right person for him.
6. She will have zero respect for you.
Your opinions, your decisions, your privacy, none of these things will matter to her in the least. She’ll drop in at all hours without any prior notice and she’ll be disappointed that you didn’t roll out a red carpet for her every time. If you do not wine her, dine her, and treat her like a queen, she will come down hard on you.