10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal

People aren’t exaggerating when they say their mothers-in-law are actually monsters-in-law. While not all of them are wicked, many do drain the life out of you with all their toxicity. Having a toxic mother-in-law can wreak havoc on your married life, and will not just make it difficult for you to have a relationship with her, it will also end up affecting your bond with your spouse.

That is why it is crucial to know the signs that point towards you having a toxic mother-in-law. The better you understand her judgemental, controlling, and poisonous nature, the better you will be able to handle her.

Here Are 10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law

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1. She’ll never admit it when she’s wrong.

A toxic mother-in-law will never admit she has made a mistake, ever; apologizing is something she does not believe in. Even if she’s made a huge mistake, she’ll still insist that she was right in doing whatever she did. She would rather put you down, and humiliate you, but being accountable for her actions? Never!

She could start World War III but she’ll still argue that she is not in the wrong, and it’s others who are the problem. She’ll simply put the blame on you or your spouse.

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2. She won’t bother listening to you.

No matter how right you are, she’ll simply dismiss your opinion. Most of the time, she won’t pay attention to you just to prove that she doesn’t care about you, and what you’re saying doesn’t matter to her even in the slightest. For her, you are nobody important or relevant, and all she cares about is her own opinions and judgments.

You could shout in her ear but she’ll just ignore you. If you’ve achieved something, no matter how big of a deal it is, she’ll just underplay it to everyone she knows. But if something is important to her, you can be sure that you’ll hear about it all the time.

3. She’ll never consider you worthy of her family.

You know you have a toxic mother-in-law, when she always makes you feel as if you are not and will never be good enough for her son. nor will you ever be worthy of being a part of her family. Be it subtly or directly, she will always make you feel unwelcome and unwanted, no matter how hard you might try to impress her and be in her good books.

It will feel like there’s a poster on the front door announcing this to the whole wide world. But don’t let this toxicity get to you. Keep your chin up, and your head held high. Work on your confidence, approach this with humor and make fun of it. She will never be able to beat that.

4. She expects you to be entirely submissive towards her.

In order to impose her dominant nature on you, she will expect you to be subservient to her, and by subservient, you will have to do whatever she tells you to do. This will include never speaking against her, accepting all her opinions, behaving just like her, and always flattering her. If you go against her, or don’t listen to what she is telling you to do, then all hell will break loose.

You’ll have to be with her, go for every little party she’s been invited to, cook only with her recipes, follow her cleaning techniques, and basically be her minion. Also, you’ll have to make sure she has the grandkids she’s asked for. It doesn’t really matter what you want and if you don’t do any of these things, you can be sure that her entire social circle will know what a horrible daughter-in-law you are.

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2 thoughts on “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Mother-In-Law and How To Deal”

  1. Thank you for sharing. A lot of what you put here has hit me. Everything you said has opened my eyes and I hopefully can stay calm and follow your wonderful direction.

  2. Thank you so much for this article. My mother-in-law is as malignant as they come, too many unfathomable horror stories I have of the last 15 years. I just learned about narcissistic behavior and realized that’s why I had no idea why she was doing all these horrible things to me. It’s so hard for others survivors to understand, because it’s a different type of relationship than that of a child, parent, spouse, etc.. I was able to check all your boxes 10x over. Thank you for writing the first piece of information regarding this topic, that I have really been able to find in 15 years, that is direct line with my situation. I feel less alone than I have in a long time – as well as assured and confident that I am finally acting accordingly to the circumstances. Thank you so very much!!!

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