The 10 Types of Toxic Relationships You Should Avoid At All Costs

Toxic Relationships Avoid At Costs

No matter how much you would want to be in a relationship with someone, there are always a few toxic types you should avoid. NO MATTER WHAT.

All of us want very different things from our relationships, and that’s okay. Some of us want partners that hold our hand on grand adventures, and some of us are looking for something more simple. Whatever you’re looking for, the way you see relationships as a whole will go a long way into defining your closest and most intimate partnerships.

The secret is knowing what you want, and cultivating the behaviors and traits that you would like to see in an ideal partner.

Our partners don’t rescue us and they don’t change us. We are the only people who can do that for ourselves. For this reason, it’s important to come into our partnerships open, well-adjusted, and whole — but that asks of us to face our emotional baggage and deal with the insecurities of our pasts.

If we want to build better relationships, we have to be better partners. That’s a transformation that can only come from within, however, and it can only come as a result of hard work and a commitment to change the way you see your partner and partnerships.

Forming Our Relationship Perceptions

The relationships that comprise our inner circles can make a huge difference when it comes to how we see ourselves and the world around us. Boyfriends, girlfriends, wives, husbands and partners offer us everything from emotional support to companionship, but it is possible to find ourselves giving little pieces away until we’re compromised past the point of return.

Avoiding this means building better relationship perceptions, and that’s a journey that begins within.

Our romantic relationships are complex and dynamic. We fall in love quickly and we can fall out of love just as quickly. When we love, we love deeply and that can often cause us to overlook critical red flags and warning signs that are best-faced head-on and in the moment.

Part of forming happy and lasting relationships is learning how to confront issues in those relationships as they happen, something that takes both time and understanding to carefully manage.

Though we often claim to be blindsided by our good love gone wrong, more often than not, there are a number of critical moments we ignore along the way. When our partners aren’t right for us, they have a funny way of showing us that truth, but it takes a dose of radical honesty to see these warnings for what they are.

To see these red flags for what they are and accept them, we have to start loving ourselves and setting boundaries both inside and out. Only when we learn how to love ourselves can we truly start loving others and receiving the love we deserve.

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The Toxic Relationship Types We Should Always Avoid

Not all relationships are created equal. While the right relationships can bring joy, tranquility, and even a sense of security into our lives, the wrong ones will unravel it in a number of ways.

From controlling relationships to outright abuse, these are the most toxic types of partnerships that are to be avoided at all costs.

1. One-sided control

One-sided relationships are toxic and leave little room for both parties to create transformative or meaningful experiences within their partnerships. When one partner takes all the control, they take away the independence and value of the other party.

Though we all want what’s best for our partners, we also have to respect their right to be who they are and express themselves in a way that is natural to them.

2. Passion-only

Ever had one of those relationships that light you on fire from the moment you meet? More often than not crazy, over-the-top, and passionate relationships burn hard and fast, but they can quickly lead to something toxic that burns down the rest of our life.

When we lean too hard into these types of relationships, we can find ourselves getting obsessed and quickly losing sight of our own strengths and individuality.

3. Endless bullying

Bullying in relationships isn’t natural, normal, or healthy. If your partner demeans, belittles, or otherwise pushes you around — you’re dealing with an abusive relationship, not a passionate one.

Though a bully might try to conceal their tactics beneath the guise of “care”, their main priority is keeping power, and they’ll use whatever tactics they need to achieve that end. Bullying is a favored tactic of abusers and narcissists alike.

4. Constant critics

Critical relationships aren’t comfortable, and they cause us to doubt ourselves and the way we see partnerships in general. A partner who constantly criticizes you is looking to demean your sense of self and increase your dependence on them and their opinions.

In order to build equitable and healthy relationships, we have to respect one another and offer only critiques that are necessary, wanted, kind, and warranted.

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E.B. Johnson

E.B. Johnson is a certified Life Coach, NLP-MP practitioner, and entrepreneur who writes about psychology, relationships, and the growth mindset. Through self-esteem sessions and a focus on the internal relationship with self, she helps others thrive.View Author posts