12 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away

12 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away

Your behavior is a little thing that makes a big difference. Whether your toxic behaviors is a common occurrence, or just a once in a blue moon phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re behaving negatively, and consciously shift your mindset when necessary.

12 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away

The twelve most common toxic behaviors we see are:

Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away

1. Being envious of everyone else –

Don’t let envy (or jealously) get the best of you.  Envy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  There is nothing attractive or admirable about this behavior.  So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s.  Your journey is YOUR journey, NOT a competition.  You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself.  You are competing to be the best you can be.  If you want to measure your progress, compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

2. Taking everything too personally –

People are toxic to be around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them.  The truth is that what people say and do to you is much more about them, than you.  People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds, and experiences.

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Whether people think you’re amazing or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them.  I’m not suggesting we should be narcissists and ignore all feedback.  I am saying that so much hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives comes from our taking things personally.  In most cases, it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinion of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.

3. Acting like you’re always a victim –

Another toxic behavior is persistent complaining that fuels your sense of victimization.  Believing you’re a victim, that you have no power to exert and no power over the direction of your life, is a toxic stance that keeps you stuck.

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Working as a life coach with people who have suffered major trauma in their lives but found the courage to turn it all around, I know we all have access to far more power, authority, and influence over our lives than we initially believe.  When you stop complaining, and refuse to see yourself as a helpless victim, you’ll find that you are more powerful than you realized, but only if you choose to accept this reality.

4. Hoarding pain and loss. –

One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy – you fight to hold on and you fight to let go.  But oftentimes letting go is the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past.  You’ve got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.  Again, it takes hard work to let go and refocus your thoughts, but it’s worth every bit of effort you can muster.

5. Obsessive negative thinking –

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It’s very hard to be around people who refuse to let go of negativity – when they ruminate and speak incessantly about the terrible things that could happen and have happened, the scorns they’ve suffered, and the unfairness of life.

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These people stubbornly refuse to see the positive side of life and the positive lessons from what’s happening. Pessimism is one thing – but remaining perpetually locked in a negative mindset is another. Only seeing the negative, and operating from a view that everything is negative and against you, is a twisted way of thinking and living, and you can change that.

13 thoughts on “12 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away”

  1. Very true. I’ve been told I’m scary many times and will be told again, I’m sure. Usually those people find out I’m really not that scary though once you get to know me and stop wasting my time. lol

  2. While we have kind hearts and I do not believe this drives people away completely, rather it has driven us to exhaustion and very well thinking we need to make the choice to leave. I truly believe you and I have been with people like this and instead we wanted to help Britt Simon

  3. “…the key is awareness – recognizing these behaviors and stopping them in their tracks”. My own awareness of and deciding to change some of the listed behaviors in myself are resulting in improved relationships and more happiness in my life. 🙂

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