63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers

63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers

63 Things Narcissistic Mothers Say

Do narcissistic parents have a handbook? You might think so when you hear what I’m going to share with you today. After a poll of the SPANily Support Group for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents, I’ve compiled a list of the most commonly used phrases by narcissistic mothers.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you’ve made a choice they don’t agree with

1. You only did that to hurt me!
2. You’re so ungrateful.
3. You never stop to think.
4. You are SO selfish!
5. This is never going to work.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you’re upset or crying about something and they are annoyed by your emotions, which they feel are not real or relevant.

1. Get over it.
2. You’re so dramatic.
3. I’ll give you something to cry about.
4. I told you so.
5. Why do things always affect you more than other people?
6. These are the choices that you have made.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you attempt to confront them about anything

1. What is wrong with you? You’re making too much out of nothing.
2. I never did that, you are just sensitive, I don’t remember it that way.
3. I don’t care.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you have proved them wrong or have a different opinion than they do

1. You think you’re SO smart!
2. I have no idea what you’re talking about.
3. Who told you that? You’re so gullible; you can’t believe everything people say.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you question their authority

1. Don’t you dare look at me like that?
2. Get that look off your face before I slap it off.
3. Who do you think you are?
4. How DARE you question me?

Things narcissistic mothers say when they’re guilt-tripping you

1. I will die without you.
2. You’re breaking my heart.
3. You are the reason your father and I divorced.
4. You only care about yourself.
5. I’ve given up my whole life for you!
6. You owe me this (because I gave you life)
7. I’m the only one who will ever really love you.
8. You’re ungrateful.

13 thoughts on “63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers”

  1. Kids should not be questioning a parent’s authority. YOU are the adult, THEY are the kids. They live under your roof, they are to do as they are told and not disrespect by talking back, yelling, crying, throwing tantrums, or using curse words or physical violence. You hear about kids now in days being rude and disrespectful towards their elders and other authority figures because parent’s like you let them step all over you. You hear about kids calling their parents “stupid”, or telling them to “shut up”, or worse! They throw tantrums for not getting what they want, you give in, and boom! Congratulations, you created a future Karen. You hear about kids, hitting, punching, slapping, even go as far as killing their own parents because they took their electronics away as punishment for not doing what they’re supposed to do like chores or school work?!? That is outrageous! There has to be boundaries in every relationship, including the parent-child relationship, and above all, respect your authority as the parent. Enforcing the rules of the home does not make you narcissistic, enforcing the consequences for their actions is not narcissistic. It’s called parenting; some of you may want to try it.

  2. Every one of those comments were those of my ex husband who always put down his daughters, and me. I could claim maybe two of those comments to be mine. During those times I knew it was wrong of him but I did not defend my daughters….what does this make me? I think now that it was for fear of upsetting him even more but now I wish that I had defended them, even to the death. Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

  3. One thing ive never come across is “mothers of narcissistic daughters”. I was raised by a narcisstic mother…but did not realize it nor open my eyes to it until about 5 yrs ago. And in the early part of my adult hood…(in my 40s now) as i worked to support my 3 kids…i left my kids with my mother when i went to work. I recognize alot of this from my child hood. And unfortunately…i have even spoken a few. I know now that my daughters are damaged from there exposure to my mother…as well as i i am myself. As i learn about all of this i am making great efforts to change and heal. But my question is…what about my kids. What about my daughter. I am her mother…but i am NOT narcisstic by nature. But my daughter seems to be. I am unlearning the negetive language and behavior of the narcisstic nature. But now also…what about my daughter. She is deeply and greatly affected by past influence and exposure that had i known then what was happening i would have removed her from immediately. Please help.

    Mother of a Narcisstic Daughter

  4. Gabriel Stone King

    I have a simple question. Is the woman on the video a mother. I get what she is saying. Being a parent is hard. Maybe focusing on the cause of these comments also, may be in order. I do not agree with parents hurting their children verbally, but I understand the motivation behind it, being a parent myself.

  5. Sounds exactly like my biological mom. All she did was put me down. This just brought back a bunch of memories.

    1. Sounds like my ex mother in law. She also had the irritating way on not ever looking you in the eyes, and her problems always had priority over others.

  6. Sounds just like my sister! I had no idea she was a narcissist until I became her target..4 years later I’m finally starting to heal from her evil devastation that continues to this day..Thank you for your article! Helps those of us left broken-hearted by the people we thought we knew..

  7. Do people really speak to their children this way ?
    Seriously it’s hard to digest most of these statements/questions it’s terrible…

    1. Yes, and as a child you thought their word was god. I’m so thankful for sites like this which help me to work through the damage that was created when I was younger.

  8. This honestly brings back all of the blur memories back. As you guys may know, narcissistic abuse messes up your memory.

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