You will meet many people who will stress you out and make you feel crazy. But, sometimes your own personality can stress you out to no end.
It’s no secret that many of us feel stressed out at work.
This stress results from the collision between the stressful life events that we drag into the workplace from our private lives and the job-related stressors that afflict us on a daily basis at work. Work overload, job insecurity, and poor interpersonal relationships with bosses and coworkers do not operate in a vacuum; they amplify whatever else is going on in the rest of our lives.
One of the things that we rarely consider is the possibility that our own personalities are a major contributor to our frazzled state-of-being. We may be aware that having a “Type A” personality or that being a pessimist may make us more susceptible to work-related stress, but personality traits and stress can interact in even more subtle ways.
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The late Mary Dempcy, along with Rene Tihista, wrote a book titled Stress Personalities: A Look Inside Ourselves. The book was based on Dempcy’s many years of conducting stress management workshops, and she identified seven different ways in which our personality can stress us out. Dempcy’s system is not a scientific theory per se, but it offers a handy and intuitively appealing way to think about the relationship between personality and stress.
Her seven stress personalities are as follows.
1. Pleasers
“Pleasers” want everybody to be happy. They go the extra mile, cover for their coworkers as needed, and tackle whatever needs to be done for the group to succeed. They graciously accept decisions that are agreeable to the greatest number of people, often sacrificing their own interests in the process.
For example, they may work the most undesirable hours or take on the most unpleasant tasks because they know that other employees will not want to do so. Over time, pleasers may begin to feel resentful and unappreciated because they have taken on too much and get little thanks for it.
2. Internal Timekeepers
“Internal Timekeepers” like responsibility. They are energetic and they like being in charge of things. However, these proclivities often lead them to take on too many duties, causing them to feel overwhelmed and anxious. Because their attention is divided among so many tasks, they become inefficient and stressed out.
Unlike pleasers, internal timekeepers are not driven by the need to make others happy, but rather by the need to feel competent and useful.
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3. Strivers
“Strivers” are ambitious and competitive. They always have an eye on what their coworkers are up to and push themselves to be the best worker in the cohort. The need to always be #1, places unreasonable demands on them, and can lead to burnout in short order.
Strivers may also become envious over the success of others.
4. Inner Con Artists
“Inner Con Artists” do not work very hard, and they may be unaware of just how hard their coworkers are working. They regularly underestimate how quickly they can get things done and how much effort it will take to be successful. Consequently, inner con artists may procrastinate and fall behind.
Because they also wish to avoid conflict, they don’t communicate with the boss or with their colleagues until it is too late to dig out of the hole they find themselves in.
5. Critical Judges
“Critical Judges” are their own worst enemies. They set high personal standards and are very hard on themselves when they make mistakes. They tend to ruminate on their shortcomings and on past failures in a completely unproductive way, leading to a downward spiral and a crisis of confidence.
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