Overcoming difficult situations in life is challenging for most of us. However, how we respond to hard times can help us alter the course of our lives and turn difficulties into happiness.
Life is unpredictable to say the least. One moment everything is going fine, and then suddenly something happens and your entire life flips upside down. When you realize and accept that life is not fair, you can become a lot more resilient and find ways to get through difficult situations in life. Psychotherapist and author Amy Morin writes “No one ever promised that life would be fair. In fact, life is unfair often. Your ability to accept that life isn’t meant to be fair can go a long way when it comes to getting you through tough situations in life.”
Learning healthy and strategic ways to deal with adversity can help us develop skills to cope effectively and recover better.
Ways to cope with difficult situations
Regardless of how hard and overbearing a situation is, there is always hope. There is always the possibility that you can get through it and stand tall. Of course, it’s easier said than done. But if you are willing to put in the effort, you can overcome even the most difficult situations. Here are 5 steps that can help you get started in the right direction.
1. Focus on the solution, not the problem
Nothing in life is permanent. Just like good times in life, hard times are also temporary and are bound to pass. No problem or challenge, irrespective of how big it may be, will ever last forever. All the difficult emotions you are experiencing right now, all the struggles and failures, all the heartbreaks, frustrations, anxiety and depression, it will all pass, regardless of how intense they may be right now. You will get out of this dark abyss to feel the warm sunlight once again. However, you will need to stop holding on to your pain and start looking at how you can climb out of this dark pit you’re stuck in right now.
Instead of being problem-focused, develop a solution-focused mindset. Instead of being attached to your problems, invest your time and energy in looking for probable solutions and developing strategies to cope with it. Accept and acknowledge the problems and the pain you are experiencing right now and tell yourself that this will pass eventually. “Sometimes awful things occur because they are a necessary part of life, but these events – like so many others before them – are transitory and always, inevitably, serve as springboards to the next revelation, the next renewal, or the next chapter. This, too, shall pass,” writes marriage & family therapist Dr. Howard C. Samuels Psy.D.
2. You are a survivor. You have survived this before.
You have been through countless difficult situations before in your life and have overcome them time and again. You have all the strength you need to survive and win this time as well. Yes, the game is different this time around and it may be your biggest challenge yet. “But you have a 100% success rate at overcoming difficult situations,” explains author Margie Warrell. The problem is, we often tend to underestimate our resiliency. You always have the strength you need to win over life. You simply need to discover it at times. And this is what struggles are all about. “In assessing your situation, you also need to assess your life and look at what you’ve already survived and know that whatever you are going through cannot hold a candle to your indomitable spirit,” adds Dr. Samuels.