Difficult life transitions and changes can be invigorating, exciting, stressful and challenging all at the same time. However, regardless of how difficult this phase may be, you can always grow through challenges and opportunities.
Life transitions are hard to face but with a little planning, you can create a formula that works.
We all want to know how to be happy but difficult life transitions and changes and are hard to face.
As we go through them, we are changed and nothing is the same again.
Sometimes, I wish there was a manual we could reference when life events knock us upside down. Wouldn’t it be great if we had a simple formula for living through these difficult times?
Life will change, that’s a given.
When someone suddenly dies and you’re left alone to fend for yourself, what do you do?
Or, your husband comes home and springs the words, “I don’t love you anymore…I want a divorce”, what is your first reaction?
On the other hand, the transition may be more expected because your last child has left home.
What you didn’t expect is feeling as if you don’t know who you are anymore. Where do you turn to figure it out?
Having lived through more than a few of my own major life events, I have tried various ways to turn myself right side up and find happiness in life again. When I can see things more clearly, I begin to move forward.
It’s taking that simple action of one-foot-in-front-of-the-other that makes the difference in how I feel. To be real, it is simple — but it is not always easy.
I understand that the same approach does not work for everyone. Yet, I believe you can develop a simple formula for living through those times if you adapt and apply certain strategies that suit your life situation.
At the very least, each one of these ideas could be your own personal formula for living a happy life. Or, you could choose to combine one or two or three at different times to magnify the results.
The key to being happier after a huge life change is to keep an open mind, then adapt and apply the strategies to your current transition, creating your own simple formula for living.
In order to still be happy while going through major life changes and transitions, here are 7 steps you need to take.
7 Ways You Can Make It Through Difficult Life Transitions And Thrive
1. Get centered on your values
Life has a way of changing you. Consequently, your values may change over time. You may notice that you have compromised your own values to keep the peace and live by someone else’s.
Regardless of what major life event you may now be facing, take some time to re-evaluate your own core values. Write them down and allow them to influence each and every decision you make going forward.
Ask yourself: “Does this decision honor my value of (you fill in the blanks)?”
For example, you are considering whether to stay in your family home or move after going through a divorce and one of your core values may be financial freedom.
Although your emotions may be raw and you can’t imagine moving at this time, staying in that home may be unaffordable and your core value of financial freedom may not be honored by staying and paying more than your budget would allow.
The decision will be made easier when you rely on your values to guide you.
This could be part of your formula for living.
2. Stop repeating the story
It’s human nature to tell everyone who will listen that something major has happened to you, especially when they ask, “How are you doing?” Their response helps you to feel compassion from others, which is not a bad thing — until it is.
There comes a point when repeating the story becomes a trap and you become a victim to the story. You create more drama the more you tell it. As a result, you become stuck in your story.