Stop worrying and start living: Worrying has so many drawbacks but then why do we do it?
Nobody has looked back to old times and accepted that worrying had positive impacts on them. But we all admit to having worried again and again about one or the other thing in our lives.
We all want to avoid negative consequences and hence are apprehensive about the unknown. Life is all about uncertainty. We have to embrace all that comes our way without resistance.
I don’t think there is a single person in this world that hasn’t experienced a copious bout of the worries in their lifetime — but why do we do this? Especially even when it’s degrading for us?
There could be a number of reasons, some being:
- You feel you need to keep yourself ‘prepared’ for the worst.
- You always have a pessimistic outlook on life.
- Your past experience has taught you that disaster always strikes, so worry is a necessary coping mechanism.
- You feel that worrying will reduce the chances of negative consequences.
But why is such an uncomfortable state of mind attached to worrying, so rewarding?
This is because our mind connects worrying with the prevention of harm or negative consequences. We believe that worrying will spare us of the harm. As worrying is all about anticipating harm, we feel, thinking persistently about the outcome will prepare you to handle it better: it will not be a surprise for us if something goes bad.
There are so many things that could go wrong and you feel you need to focus on each one to embody it or try to find a possible solution for it in the event of it happening.
Now, if we put ourselves out of the equation and have an impartial look at the situation- these worries are not only a waste of precious manifesting time but they are a reinforcement of unconstructive potential timelines.
You Are What You Think
In 2005, the National Science Foundation published an article regarding research about human thoughts per day. The average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before. (1) So, it is mostly about what we choose to think or bring to mind that matters.
What we strongly believe is what really happens in reality.
This is not meant to scare you, it is a preparation tool to steer your thoughts to build positive neural connections. When you reinforce encouraging scenarios in your mind, as opposed to harmful scenarios, you are creating the potential for a more fruitful future.
Easier said than done?
Surely not, but it is possible.
Answer this: Has worrying ever solved your problems anyway?
I’m going to take a stab in the dark and say ‘no’ it probably hasn’t, right? So what can you do now to alleviate any future concerns you have?
Eckhart Tolle has pointed out three memorable and straightforward options that you can apply here. Which are:
- remove yourself from the situation (in this case, remove the worry),
- change it (transmute the worrisome thought form) or
- accept it totally (surrender to any future possibility).
Let’s go a bit into detail.
Here are 6 simple Techniques to stop worrying
1. Do Something
Let’s be harsh and break the reverie. Being trapped in your mind will not provide you with solutions for any real danger coming your way.
Can you actually do something about it now? If the answer is yes, take those first steps and you will begin to lighten the load off your mind.
You can pen your thoughts down in your journal. Just getting it out of your head and onto paper can be a huge relief. You can then burn the paper or trash it symbolizing your new stance on worry.
Let your troublesome thought know who is the boss!
2. Find a solution
Map out a possible solution, anything that aligns your choice.
Again, it is always helpful to write it down so that your mind is free of it. Writing down will help you sort and structure the worry.
When you can look at some achievable solutions, you may gain a better perspective of how you can change or alter the course of your quandary.
If there is absolutely nothing you can do, then try acceptance of what is. You have previous experiences about the nature of worries – they are unwanted, yield nothing, are often repetitive, comes and goes and gives us discomfort.
Now, that you have this information about worrying, you can always convince yourself to accept that worrying is a part and parcel of life.
If you cannot change what is, you need to let it go and find peace within your situation.
Worrying always gets our mind cluttered with thoughts.
This mental noise often dulls our decision-making abilities and hampers our daily activities too. If the mid-set of a person is not clear, even day to day activities seems to be a difficult task to accomplish.
There is a wealth of information just waiting for you to tap into when you are in a meditative state. Clearing your mind of what I like to call ‘mind-static’ (continuous loops of mind chatter) will help you to excavate that diamond of truth and gain a lucid perspective.