Read the signs of a sociopath, and how to get away from one.
Key Points: Look for the following characteristics:
-A lack of shame
-Constant lying, manipulation, or attempts at isolation
-Ability to remain calm, even in extreme circumstances
-Charm, intelligence, huge ego, and immaturity
-Uncalled for violent behavior
-Inability to make eye contact
Part One of Two: Reading the Signs
1. Look For A Lack Of Shame.
Most sociopaths can commit vile actions and not feel the least bit of remorse. Such actions may include physical abuse or public humiliation of others. If the person is a true sociopath, then he or she will feel no remorse about hurting others, lying, manipulating people, or just generally acting in an unacceptable way.
- When a sociopath does something wrong, he or she is likely to accept none of the blame and to blame others instead.
- Sociopaths are willing to hurt whomever whenever if it means that they will achieve their goals. This is why many sociopaths are highly successful people.
- Sociopaths may be cruel to animals and will show absolutely no remorse for that, either.
2. See If The Person Is Constantly Lying.
Sociopaths are perfectly comfortable going through their lives telling a series of lies. In fact, true sociopaths are uncomfortable when they are telling the truth. If they are finally caught in a lie, then they will continue to lie and backpedal to cover up the lies. If they are really on the verge of being caught in a major, major lie, though, they may then wildly confess everything in order to maintain your loyalty.
- Sociopaths love to lie about their pasts, too. Look for inconsistencies in their stories.
- Some sociopaths will go to great lengths to make you believe their lies. For example, a sociopath may pretend to leave “to go to work” every single day even if that person is unemployed.
- Many sociopaths are delusional to the point where they believe that their lies are the truth. For example, Charles Manson once said, “I’ve never killed anyone! I don’t need to kill anyone!” (He said this in reference to the fact that his followers killed someone and not he himself.)
3. See If They Are Able To Stay Eerily Calm In Spite Of Circumstances.
A sociopath can experience a highly emotional event without displaying the least bit of emotion, at least on the surface (silent scorn). They often respond to “good news” with cold blank stares. Sociopaths don’t register events the same way as non-sociopaths and may barely react in dangerous or scary situations.
- If you find yourself flustered or panicked and the person you’re with looks barely perturbed, then he or she may not register an event as seriously as you do. There are two different kinds of people who do this, one is valiant brave men and woman, who enter into the intensity of the moment to overcome it. The other kind is of dissociation, where it isn’t able to touch them in a sort of way. This is a sign of dissociation and is true among members who are not in touch with their own empathy, or have no empathy. This includes sociopaths, who lack empathy.
- Check to see if the person has ever seemed anxious or nervous, especially in situations that should naturally cause this behavior. Though some people are more even-keeled than others, most people demonstrate some form of anxiety eventually.
- -Studies show that sociopaths do not demonstrate anxiety when shown disturbing images or when they’re given small electrical shocks, while non-sociopaths do register anxiety and fear in these situations.
4. See If They Are Extremely Charming
At First. Sociopaths are great at charming people, because they know how to get what they want. Charming people know how to make people feel special, to ask people the right questions about themselves, and to generally be perceived as fun, likable, and interesting. Truly charming people possess the ability to charm almost anyone, from little kids to old ladies. If the person is incredibly charming at first glance, while his or her later behavior scares or confuses you, then you may have a sociopath on your hands.
- You can think of sociopaths as con artists who always have a secret agenda. They need to know how to charm people in order to get what they want. To advance their goals, they first have to blend in with the crowd, which means they need to know how to smile, greet people, and make people feel comfortable.
- Although many sociopaths can be extremely charming, they harbor strong antisocial inclinations. They have a hard time staying in connection for long periods of time. They make frequent and long trips to the bathroom. They can be extremely charming, and then cold and distant. They are also not quite genuine in the interactions either. When people are very polar in their behavior, ranging from antisocial to extremely charming, it’s a marker of disintegration in their psyche – and it’s a red flag. It can also be an attempt to elicit rejection and wounding, to then control the others with. It is always accompanied with a lack of compassion or basic consideration of another’s life. If it doesn’t feel genuine from within them, it could very well be a person with sociopathic tendencies.
- Many sociopaths are so charming that they have a twisted glow about them and even oftentimes radiate sexuality.
5. See If The Person Is Exceptionally Intelligent.
Some of the famous sociopaths possess a strong mental acumen and can perform well in academics/skill without cracking a book. If they apply themselves they obtain perfect grades. However, sociopaths use their intelligence in order to manipulate and hurt people, instead of helping them. Their extreme intelligence is part of what makes them so dangerous, because they will often be several steps ahead of people who are onto them and are able to cover their tracks.
-Many of the most notorious serial killers had very high IQ’s; this is part of the reason that they were able to evade the police for so long.