So is there any recourse to maintaining his interest and not having sex
If a man is being too pushy about having sex, saying yes to him would only make his interest go sooner as soon as he is satiated. Don’t think that of you gratify him physically he would somehow like you more. If he is only for instant contentment he will not think twice about it once it has happened. And he is no way obliged to do so if you gave your consent. However, if you want him to stay, try showing him what else does life have to offer. It doesn’t mean sex is off the table completely. It just means you do it when you are completely fine with it and not simply just to please him.
Try to learn a little more about each other
If you like him in the first impression, it’s a good idea to try and know a bit more about him. There are so many sides to a person. Try to figure out what his likes and dislikes are. What are his opinions on politics and the world around him? How he regards relationships and family and a little history regarding both? And be open to share all this information with him as well. This will not only help you get more close to him and this makes the intimate activity more comfortable and better. But it also gives you an idea how the ideologies of you two mingle or clash. And for the long term that is very important information to have indeed.
As mentioned before there is no ‘one right time’ to sleep with a guy for the first time. But here are a few possible contenders-
– Both of you connect on many things they make you feel good about who you are
– There is mutual likeness as well as respect
– They are true to their word
– They are treating this as an exclusive situation
– They are not still hung up on any old flame
– Both of you agree on the kind of relationship you want
– You can imagine yourself being in a long-term relationship with them
– sex feels like the logical next step
– You know that you won’t regret having sex with them
It is always better to have sex with someone when you know you two are compatible. Even more so when you feel you want something more than a casual fling with this person. And if they are worthy of your attention and love, and looking for the same thing as you, they will not have any problem in delaying the physical aspects of the relationship for a little while.
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