16 Signs of Insecurity In A Narcissistic Person

Signs Insecurity In Narcissistic Person

Do you feel insecure most of the time? Insecure people tend to lack self-confidence and low self-esteem which hampers their growth in life. They never feel accepted or safe leading to severe emotional exhaustion. Here are a few signs of insecurity that can slowly ruin your life.

How insecurity makes us feel

Most of us feel insecure at times. We often doubt ourselves, compare ourselves with others and think that they are better than us. We feel vulnerable and unsafe. Yet we try our best to not show it in front of others. Most of the time we misunderstand our insecurities and either feel jealous of others or lose the confidence to do something with gusto. However, there are some people who persistently feel insecure and live in constant fear. Health and wellness expert Caleb Backe saysBeing somewhat insecure or a little jealous/paranoid is natural. We can be very possessive, sometimes without even meaning it… But this changes when you start acting on your insecurities.” Insecure people fail to identify their anxiety, fear and insecurities, they pretend to be overly confident and often become manipulative leading to narcissistic tendencies. Their manipulative efforts to cover up their insecurities only make them feel less loved, valued and accepted – the exact opposite of what they actually desire.

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In their effort to hide their insecurities, insecure people often act fake and pretend to be highly confident and secure individuals. But behind their assertive demeanor lies warning signs of insecurity which stare blankly at their faces. So they feign confidence and instead make others feel insecure and inferior. This is known as inferiority complex, theorized by Viennese psychoanalyst Alfred Adler. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., author and Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, explainsAccording to Adler, people who feel inferior go about their days overcompensating through what he called ‘striving for superiority’.” These individuals, who constantly feel uncertain inside their minds, can only experience happiness by “making others decidedly unhappy.” For Adler, this intense urge to feel superior is based at the core of neurosis.

Narcissism, insecurity and self-esteem 

Many experts believe that the signs of insecurity may hint towards narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissists are persistently focused looking for ways to boost their brittle ego and lift their feeble self-esteem. Their need for constant attention, reassurance, validation and admiration and their pretentiousness can even affect their social reputation and relationships. They are driven to make others feel inferior in order to make themselves feel superior due to their low self-esteem and narcissistic traits.

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Psychologist James Brookes of the University of Derby conducted a study in 2015 to understand how individuals with prominent narcissistic traits observed themselves on three parameters –

  • Their own efficiency
  • Faith in their ability to succeed
  • Their self-esteem

The study found that “Overt narcissism was positively associated with self-esteem and self-efficacy.” It also revealed that self-efficacy and self-esteem were negatively associated with covert narcissism. This can give us some idea about how the insecurities of narcissists dictate their actions and behaviors.

Hiding your insecurities

Most people try to hide their signs of insecurity and pretend to be someone they are not. They pretend to be someone they believe others will like, respect, value and admire. They start believing the mantra “Fake it till you make it.” But in this process, they lose something truly valuable – their authentic self. The problem is, while we might think we’re managing and hiding our insecurities most of the time, the people around us sense them all of the time,” explains best-selling author Tamara Star.

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The more afraid we become of our insecurities and the harder we try to fake it, the more our genuineness is affected. However, most of us can often sense weakness and fear in ourselves and in others. So when others start noticing the signs of insecurity in you, they tend to pull back. Tamara adds “In today’s world, authenticity, credibility and reputation are everything. No one wants to hang out or do business with someone smelling insecure or fake.”

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