Are you depressed? Do you feel sad and hopeless? Are you even sure it’s you and not the jerks tormenting you all the time? Depression is no joke. It is a demanding mental health condition that can adversely affect what we think, how we feel and how we act. But before jumping on to the conclusion that you are depressed, make sure that the people around you are not pure-bred assholes. These toxic people will not only suck your energy but also make your life miserable.
Jerks are all around us
There are many top grade douchebags who can make us feel like we have lost our old happy, relaxed selves, simply through their toxic presence. Despite how much we try to be understanding, resilient and strong, certain toxic individuals can drain our energy and make us exhausted. So if you have been feeling upset lately, first make sure you are not surrounded by toxic people before telling yourself that you are depressed. Take a good look around you and try to identify that jerk who is directly or indirectly making you feel miserable.
The power of assholes
The question is why do these douchebags make us feel so depressed? Well, because deep down we are inherently good, decent and nice people who treat others with respect. And these assholes tend to take advantage of that. We are programmed from our childhood to respect people, value the opinion of others, consider others’ feelings, listen to what someone has to say and never to insult or humiliate anyone, unless provoked. Being a calm, empathetic person, you believe expressing your feelings and opinions as politely as possible.
But the same code is not followed by these assholes. They thrive on picking on nice people. Why? Because they are assholes. To them, your niceness is a weakness and once you start believing that yourself and doubt your values and principles, you feel depressed. Your sense of self-worth, confidence and self-esteem takes a huge beating and gets replaced by sadness, hopelessness and fatigue. So are you depressed? Probably not. Just take a good look at the people around you.
Signs you are not depressed, just surrounded by toxic people
Here’s how toxic & selfish individuals around you are trying to ruin your life and that you are not actually depressed. You are not the problem. They are. Take a look…
1. They are energy vampires
Assholes are pro at sucking out your energy and your good vibes leaving you drained and exhausted. These people will only take from you, whether you are willing or unwilling, but they will never offer anything back to you. Their mere presence will make you feel oppressed, disrespected and demeaned. Although they may act like they care about you, but in reality they simply do not care about your feelings or needs. They will never listen to what you have to say and instead will only talk about themselves and their non-existent greatness.
2. They guilt trip you
They are often narcissists and manipulators who will have no qualms about burdening you with their own expectations and compelling you to do what will inflate their egos and meet their needs. They are manipulative and try to influence you by making every conversation about them. This will make you sidetrack your own feelings and deny what you actually want from a particular situation. When you will be compelled to constantly focus on another person’s needs first, you will end up being frustrated and resentful. This leads to feelings of depression as you will keep suppressing your true feelings all the time, making you lose interest in doing what you love.
3. They are loud and ignorant
They always make sure their opinions are heard loud and clear by everyone. They are never worried about crossing boundaries to make their thoughts public even at the cost of invading your private space. They will not hesitate to hurt someone to drive their point home and to have the last word. When threatened by someone who is smarter than them, these assholes will instantly resort to lies, twisted facts, insults and even public shaming as they themselves are highly insecure. Having this type of a partner or a boss can make feel upset, miserable and stressed.