How to Restore Faith In True Love Again?
Everyone at some point in their lives has had bad relationships, that have destroyed their trust in true love. Toxic partners and the wrong kind of relationships can not only take a toll on you mentally, but it also makes you close your heart to the possibility of true love.
The person who hurt you did not deserve you, nor was he your true love. What if your true love and soulmate are waiting just around the corner? Isn’t true love all about taking that leap of faith?
“Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.”
If you’ve given up on looking for love and feel like there’s no one out there for you, you’re not alone.
A poll revealed 12 percent of people (mostly women and some who are in relationships) don’t think they’ll ever fall in love. If that’s truly your belief, your reality will likely match that expectation.
But that doesn’t have to really be your truth. You can consciously change your attitude, transform your situation, and learn how to find love. You can let go of the fear of being hurt and stop spinning useless stories that hold you back.
Here are 5 suggestions that will help restore your faith in true love again.
1. Celebrate yourself and build your confidence.
Attempts to find love are often accompanied by pretenses or projections of who you think someone will love, rather than being your authentic self. You are lovable. You have many natural qualities.
Can you see them for yourself? Make a list of your positive traits. If you’re not sure, ask friends or family what they like about you. Practice enjoying who you are. By doing so, you build self-confidence which is highly attractive to others.
2. Adopt a pet to understand unconditional love.
Whether you adopt a dog, cat, or parrot, these creatures teach lessons about unconditional love. They accept you as you are and seek your attention — your love — whether you’re feeling fat, broke, tired, or whatever.
“Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet.” ―
They show you how to actually be present and content in every moment, no matter what. They reveal true love in a way that conditions your brain to fire off “feel-good” responses, which trigger a deeper awareness of love. They prime you for the real (human) thing.
3. Allow yourself to feel and be vulnerable.
Release all struggle. Surrendering to life’s flow aligns you with the natural laws of nature and connects you to divine love.
When getting stuck in self-limiting beliefs, you become filled with tension that blocks you from receiving — or seeing — the love that is readily accessible. Yoga, meditation, mindfulness, qigong are all helpful strategies to open you to the true essence and energies of real love.
4. Find a new hobby.
Many of those polled complained they weren’t meeting anyone new in their social circles. Why not expand those circles? Try a new sport, a new craft, take an art or language class. Do something you’ve always wanted to do but never made the time for it. Make it a priority.
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
You’ll benefit by learning something new and connect with someone with a similar interest in the process. That’s what we call a win-win.
5. Change your negative self-talk.
Recently, a young man posted 10 lines on Facebook repeating, “I will never find love.” He’s reinforcing a belief which influences his behavior and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. He’s giving off negative “vibes” which contribute to making him undesirable.
“Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways.”
Notice your self-chatter and if it’s self-critical, it’s time to change it. If the FB man would have said, “I will find love,” he’d feel — and act — completely differently. Visualize the perfect mate coming towards you; hold onto that vision and it will happen.