This Simple Phrase Will Stop Gossip Once and For All

Simple Phrase Stop Gossip For All

Here’s why you need to stop gossip.

‘Did you hear that Bill actually…’

‘That’s what she tells everyone but do you know that…’

‘You should really listen to what happened at Taylor’s party last Friday…’

We are prone to hearing gossips from various spheres of our lives. It is quite unfortunate but it is also the hard truth that we all have been part of gossips and we did enjoy it.

According to research, as explained in Psychology Today, conducted by a team from the University of Amsterdam, 90 percent of office conversations are actually gossips. Researchers at Georgia Institute of Technology came to the conclusion that 15 percent of emails exchanged by office colleagues among themselves are gossips.

Gossips are not limited to our workplace. We as human beings have the habit of gossiping everywhere. While doing this, we often forget the people we are hurting until and unless we do not become the victims.

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Now the question is, why do we gossip?

According to psychologists, human beings gossip in order to bond with others. When a dislike is shared in a group, it helps in creating the bond stronger than the sharing of similar interest.

The second reason is, gossip helps people indulge in a shared sense of humor or thrill to know about something which is confidential to another person or know certain details of someone the group doesn’t like.

This leads to the third reason of gossiping which is quite sadistic in nature. People tend to gossip because they find pleasure in someone else’s failure while in reality, they are insecure of themselves; so they need someone they can compare themselves with.

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According to relationship expert, Andrea Syrtash, gossip causes harm on the one who is gossiping and the other person who is at the receiving end. When a person, say A is gossiping to B, about X and B is entertaining it too, chances are there, that A with the tendency to gossip, will gossip about B to some other person. This is the nature of people who gossip. So, while it might be fun for us to listen to the gossip, we might never know that we are the subjects somewhere else.

So, how can we stop gossip?

Psychologists say that there’s just one single phrase to stop gossip. That’s saying, ‘Why are you telling me this?’

The moment you ask the intention of the gossiper, the gossiper will stop in order to conceal their evil intentions, which they wish to carry out and take advantage of a situation or a person.

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Also, it clearly implies that you are not at all interested in listening to gossip.

Gossip is extremely harmful especially in this age with the rapid progress in science and technology. Cyberbullying has become a common crime where users, as young as school-goers have become victims.

Gossips have led to bullying, teasing, and a lot of abuse behaviors among people of various ages. People who engage in such vices and the ones who are at the receiving end suffer from severe psychological disorders that can even go to extremes such as suicide.

Gossip needs to be stopped in order to have a happy and healthy society. Just one phrase can do it.

Stop gossip!

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28 thoughts on “This Simple Phrase Will Stop Gossip Once and For All”

  1. My reply. “Your opinion is intriguing….does it come with a check?” The point I’m making is …. “when you start financing my life you’re entitled to an opinion of how I live it! “

  2. That’s a good thought, but I have said this many times , and the gossip does not stop . It does give them pause . It might slow them down ! Always need to at least try ! I also love to say what do you say about me when I’m not around.
    We all need a good vent now and then , but if you can’t say it to their face , you should not be saying it behind their back.

  3. There was once a psrticularly sticky sitation at work, when one of the “main Protagonists” took me into her confidence. Another colleague approached me later, asking what said protagonist had confided. Conspiratorially, I asked, in a half-whisper, “Can you keep a secret?” “Yes….!” she eagerly replied. “So can I!” I remarked. “So if ever you need confidentiality, I’m your girl!”, and with that, I winked at her, and walked off.
    Works like a charm. keeps me out of the Gossip-Monger circle, but doesn’t make me unpopular. On the contrary……

  4. This statement will not stop gossip…only gossip TO YOU. And will likely create gossip ABOUT you. Rarely do I gossip (occasionally I lose my filter when I am tired or stressed), and I find myself on the fringe of most social circles, and the one often gossiped about. Ironically, on the rare occasion I do gossip, it gets back to the person I talked about and I am the bad guy, not the gossipers who do it all the time.

    1. My mother always told me, if i complained I was being talked about, or picked on, “Don’t worry. Ignore it., They’ll soon move on. Right now, they’re just giving some other poor victim a rest….” Which made feel good about aiding in the respite to someone else….. The simplest way to stop gossip is to take it all in, but keep the ‘out’ facility, buttoned up….

  5. That’s a phrase I use all the time . Never stopped no one . On the other hand when I tell them I will repeat it with the sources name added lol they usually stop .

  6. Could also use “I don’t care” “so what?” “And?” Clearly it’s not going to stop gossiping altogether, but it may prevent you from being included in future sessions.

  7. “She said! He said!”
    I’m free from gossip because I don’t need to be a follower.
    I’m free in my own opinions.
    Please pass this on if you can remember. Could I help by writing this down. Simple minds need others to be comfortable in one’s skin. Do I need to go on. Please ask those whom you associated with to speak for themselves.

    The last person who heard this was so confused forgot what they were cosiping about.

  8. “Why are you telling me this?”….. cos I thought you’d be interested. Not a very good gossip stopper. There’s an assumption that when we use this comment, the other person is self aware. Most people who gossip ARE NOT.

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