6 Silent Soul Destroyers Narcissists Use To Destroy You

Silent Soul Destroyers Narcissists

4. The Silent Presence.

By giving you the cold shoulder when everyone else is met warmly and enthusiastically, we cause you to feel completely alone even when you are surrounded by others. You try to carry on as if nothing has happened but you know that people will be wondering why we are not speaking to you. You feel the flush of embarrassment as once again you try to speak to us and you receive only a glare and then we sweep away.

You want to challenge us but as ever it is you that will be criticized for creating a scene. You want to upbraid us for our childish sulking but you have learned that the consequences of doing so are not worth suffering. We of course know all this and we know how powerful our freezing you out in the company of others really is.

5. Suffer In Silence.

You are never to speak of what goes on between you and I to anyone else. Should you ever do so you are committing an act of heinous betrayal and your punishment for such a transgression will be malicious and fierce. You are not to betray me and speak of what you are subjected to. You are to endure it so that you become a better person, one who is compliant and obedient. Do you understand?

I also know that you fear the repercussions of speaking out and this enforces my curfew. I also know that you feel compelled to remain loyal because of the golden period and how you feel duty-bound to remain and try to resolve matters, work this difficult period through and fix what has become somehow broken.

Your indefatigable spirit teeters on the brink of misplaced pride at not telling tales and instead knuckling down, irrespective of what is thrown at you, in order to bring about a resolution to our problems. You cannot succeed but you do not know that yet. For now, you must suffer in silence.

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6. I Speak, You Stay Silent.

Never interrupt me, never talk over me, never steal my thunder. When I speak everybody listens because what I have to say is brilliant, great, and of tremendous import.

You would do well to listen to improve yourself, please me, and avoid angering me. You are my sounding board, Horatio to my Hamlet, a listener, and in my presence, you only speak when it is required to honor my achievements and laud my greatness. You are to be seen but only heard when I deem it necessary.

Who wants to listen to what you have to say anyway? You only get invited to events because of me. They are only friends with you because they are friends of mine. Nobody is interested in you. Nobody. So stay quiet and listen.


Written by HG Tudor 
Originally appeared on Narcsite 
Republished with permission
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