When it comes to your personality, and how you are as a person, it depends mostly on your mental makeup. Even though the world is becoming superficial with every passing day, with people focusing more on how you look from the outside, people tend to forget that a person is shaped up according to their mentality, and mental habits.
Every person grows with time, both physically and mentally, with some people experiencing their fair share of troubles, and hard times. This takes a psychological toll on them after a point, which sometimes manifests as resentment or bitterness. They might have their heart in the right place, but the pain of everything they have gone through overshadows that.
So, if you are one of these people, and you are actively trying to overcome this sense of bitterness, you need to look deep into how you think or how your mind works. The moment you realize all those mental habits that are making you feel bitter, you will slowly be able to work towards healing yourself and letting those habits go for good. Yes, it will take a lot of effort on your side, but the end result will be absolutely worth it.
Here Are 7 Mental Habits That Can Make You Feel Bitter
1. Failing to forgive yourself.
One of the biggest mental habits that make you feel bitter is not forgiving yourself.
In order to be truly happy, and at peace with yourself, it is important for you to forgive yourself. It is important for you to understand that you are human, and your mistakes do not always define you, as long as you know that you need to be better. Your inner healing can only start when you are ready to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Feelings like regret, shame, embarrassment, and guilt can eat away at you until there is no happiness left in you.
If you are constantly thinking about your past mistakes, and no matter how hard you try, you are not being able to move on, then you need to stop for a moment and explore those feelings. Once you do, you need to accept those feelings, face them, and finally let them go. The moment you are able to do this, those negative feelings will have no power over you, and you finally will be able to forgive yourself.
2. Failing to forgive others.
A common mistake that almost everyone makes when it comes to forgiveness is that they tend to believe forgiving someone or something is equivalent to forgetting that which caused you pain. That is why, even though they might say that they have forgiven someone, the truth is, they haven’t. At all.
True forgiveness is when you are able to face the fact that someone wronged you, and even though it hurts like hell, you are trying to not let that dominate your life. Once you accept and acknowledge what has happened, you will notice that all that resentment, and bitterness that you were harboring in your heart are slowly seeping away.
Forgiving someone does not mean that what they did, or made you go through was okay. Forgiveness actually means that you are not going to let their negativity interfere with your happiness and inner peace. Because when you choose forgiveness, you are also choosing kindness for yourself.
Overgeneralization is another one of those mental habits, that can make you feel bitter and negative in the long run. Even though you might not realize it always. Once you start having the mindset, that because you failed at one thing, you are going to fail at literally everything else, you are giving in to the toxicity of overgeneralization. Or because one person is evil/bad, then the whole human race is bad.
Overgeneralizing can make you feel paranoid, and you will end up actually screwing up things that you are genuinely good at. Your confidence and mindset takes a direct hit from this mental habit and ends up making you feel that you will never succeed, or worse, you are not good enough to be good at something. A few more side-effects of overgeneralization are that it can even lead to feelings of depression, anxiety, fear, low self-esteem, and trust issues.
If happiness and contentment are what you are looking to have in your life, you need to bid goodbye to this mental habit for good. Yes, the world is a dangerous, and unfair place, but that does not mean that life does not have anything good to offer to you, or that every person is out to get you.
4. Giving into hopelessness.
An extreme sense of hopelessness can potentially put people at risk of depression, and suicide, making it a very dangerous thing. Even if your sense of hopelessness is not as severe as this, giving in to this mental habit consistently can mess with your mental health in the long run.