What Is Introvert’s Paralysis And 9 Ways You Can Overcome It

What Introverts Paralysis

Have you ever heard of the term ‘Introvert’s Paralysis, which very commonly happens to most introverts out there?

Have you ever frozen up in public? Scrambled for the right words in a meeting? Forgotten everything you were going to say in the blink of an eye? It’s frustrating, to say the least…literally!

You have suffered from what I call Introvert’s Paralysis. This is the sudden blankness or void that overcomes you at the exact wrong time.

What is Introvert’s Paralysis?

Imagine yourself at a meeting table with twelve others. The leader is going around the table asking for a brief introduction from everyone…name, role, years in the company, and then the tricky one – one unique thing about you no one else would know. Your turn is coming as the wave moves around the room and you are scrambling to think of something to share…

You are at a cocktail reception with hundreds of strangers. You are determined to blend in, or perhaps you are told to do so as part of your job. So you approach a table of four and all eyes focus on you. It is your chance to speak…

You are giving a presentation at work (or church or some other organization). You are introduced and approach the middle of the stage. And your mind goes blank…

Related: 19 Signs You’re an Introvert in a Loud World

Who Suffers from Introvert’s Paralysis?

Well, introverts are the obvious and most common victims. Shy people also may deal with this phenomenon. Not everyone suffers from Introvert’s Paralysis, but if you are both shy and an introvert as I am, this devil may rear its ugly head at the most inopportune moments.

Why do we get this?

This disabling issue can be a form of social anxiety but it can be especially common with introverts. We get “in our heads” a lot. We build up these events in our minds from the moment the event is on our meticulous calendar. This anxiety swirling in our reflections often directs us to lean on another common strength…preparation.

But are we preparing in the right way?

What are we doing wrong?

Our inclination is actually to over-prepare. We write out our speech, add PowerPoint slides, and hold curled note cards in our hands. We review what we will say when it is our turn for an introduction, often to the word. I know, I did this for years in my corporate job and in my awkward social life.

But we are building up a wall that is hard to scale.

Where did this wall come from?

This paralysis is due to a build-up of tension and apprehension. It’s like your stomach tightening with every click-click-click as your rollercoaster climbs to the peak before the inevitable plunge. Once you reach the top, the tension goes away. You may not love the rollercoaster, but you are likely to release your pent-up energy with a piercing shriek. You may even love the ride and will surely be proud you took the chance.

It’s the same with this paralysis. Once you break through the initial wall, the conversation will go smoother and your confidence and pride will grow.

How do I break through this wall and overcome my paralysis?

1. Know yourself.

It sounds simple but so important to know what your strengths and values are. Forget about your gaps and lean on your strengths. Do you like to learn? Are you thoughtful and empathetic? Are you creative? Are you curious? Are you a planner? Each of these can help in preparing for difficult events.

Take a quick Personalized Introvert Superpower Quiz here.

Related: 4 Types Of Introverts According To Jungian Psychology

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