Humans use, abuse and manipulate each other since the dawn of mankind. That’s how great kingdoms were built and also brought down. Manipulation is a shady trick and it is open performed in the veil of something sweet and bright.
We often tend to be protective about our partner in a relationship to an extent but there are times when that protectiveness becomes manipulation. Learning to decipher this shady trick is best in the interest of your sanity and emotions.
15 signs he is manipulating you and not protecting you
1. He claims to know the best for you
You’re an adult and every adult has the power to make their own decision but he constantly makes you feel that you need his guidance to make the right choices. He always claims to know you better and what is best of interest for you there, by robbing you of the opportunity to make your own decisions.
2. He keeps on bringing up your past
Everyone makes a bad decision and everyone at some point fail that is how life works, no one is perfect. He keeps on bringing your past to prove you that you do make wrong decisions and he is ‘worried’ about you repeating the same again.
3. He keeps whining about time
You have a life and responsibilities and there are times you want to live your life on your own but whenever you have a plan or are working a lot, he starts complaining how you would spend more time with him if you really cared enough.
4. He gets clingy in presence of other men
If you are at a party or anywhere out and when eyes of men fall on you are merely their presence will trigger the insecurity in you and he begins hugging and kissing.
5. He doesn’t like you spending time with anyone else
Love often makes one possessive but we do know what that love does to one. Every time you are out with someone to be it, friend or family, he keeps texting you and asks you to come home early. This may sound protectiveness but this is manipulation.
6. He keeps commenting on your driving skills
Love is supposed to make you a better person and criticism does that for a while if it is constructive criticism but if someone keeps reminding you how you could have always done things better without any appreciation it’s not constructive criticism.
7. He boasts about his wisdom
Maybe at some point you didn’t listen to him and it turned out he was right, get ready now, he is not going to forget this and it will be used repeatedly to remind you of his wisdom and also how you don’t really make good decisions.
8. He makes over threats
If he threatens you to leave or harm himself if you don’t do something he asks for, it’s time you leave. That is not love, that is madness and they are two very different things. Constant threats are nothing but manipulation to make you do what they desire.
9. He constantly says to stay away from other men.
While a little jealousy is typical and sweet if your partner asks you to steer clear from co-workers, college mates or ANY men it’s a bad sign, he is taking it too far, trying to own you.
10. He makes his efforts known
A relationship is all about putting efforts, the silent efforts but he lets you and everyone else know how protective and caring he is. Every time you are out with friends he keeps texting and asking them when you will be home. He keeps reminding you of how he did ‘this and that’ for you in the past.
11. He wants you to be with him all the time
Everybody needs some ‘me’ time, the time spent in solitude to recharge oneself and introspect. If he doesn’t respect your ‘me’ time and wants you to be with you always, it’s not sweet or protective, it’s manipulation. It’s time to move on.
12. Your opinion doesn’t matter
Not only he thinks that he is wiser than you make the best decisions but your opinions don’t matter at all, often you’re not even asked before making a choice or decision on your behalf.
13. He is never satisfied, let alone pleased
You put in efforts to make him happy but no matter what you do and how you do it, there is always something missing for him, there is always something you could have done better. All your efforts and love, it is just never enough for him.
14. He wants to make all your decisions
He already feels that his decisions are superior and best for you, every time you come up to him with a problem, he has a solution and no matter your consent he will go ahead and force his decision on you.
15. He wants to be the only one to make you happy
This may sound like a good thing but do you realize that he is trying to limit your happiness to only him. Every time someone else or something makes you happy he feels insecure and jealous. He wants to be the only thing that makes you happy and smile.