It is not always possessiveness or protectiveness, when it comes to a romantic partner. He might simply be manipulating you in the name of love.
Humans have used, abused, and manipulated each other since the dawn of mankind. That’s how great kingdoms were built and also brought down. Manipulation is a shady trick and it is openly performed in the veil of something sweet and bright.
We often tend to be protective about our partner in a relationship to an extent, but there are times when that protectiveness becomes manipulation. Learning to decipher this shady trick is best in the interest of your sanity and emotions.
15 Signs He Is Manipulating You And Not Protecting You
1. He claims to know what is best for you.
You’re an adult and every adult has the power to make their own decisions, but he constantly makes you feel that you need his guidance to make the right choices.
He always claims to know you better and what is in your best interest, by robbing you of the opportunity to make your own decisions.
2. He keeps on bringing up your past.
Everyone makes a bad decision and everyone at some point fails, and that is how life works. No one is perfect.
He keeps on bringing up your past to prove that you do make wrong decisions and he is ‘worried’ about you repeating the same mistakes again.
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3. He keeps whining about time.
You have a life and your own responsibilities and there are times you want to live your life on your own. But whenever you have a plan or are working a lot, he starts complaining about how you would spend more time with him if you really cared enough.
4. He gets clingy in the presence of other men.
If you are at a party or in any event, and when other men tend to compliment you, he becomes overly jealous.
The presence of any other man is simply unacceptable for them. It will trigger the insecurity in him and he begins to monopolize you by constantly clinging onto you.
5. He doesn’t like you spending time with anyone else.
Love often makes one possessive but we do know what that love does to one. Every time you are out with someone to be it, friend, or family, he keeps texting you and asks you to come home early. This may sound protectiveness but is actually manipulation.
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6. He is always criticizing you.
Love is supposed to make you a better person and criticism does that for a while but only if it is constructive criticism.
But if someone keeps reminding you how you could have always done things better without any appreciation it’s not constructive criticism, but control.
7. He boasts about his wisdom.
Maybe at some point, you didn’t listen to him and it turned out he was right, get ready now, he is not going to forget this. It will be used repeatedly to remind you of his wisdom and also how bad you are making good decisions.
8. He makes over threats.
If he to leave or harm himself if you don’t do something he asks for, it’s time you leave. That is not loving, that is madness and they are two very different things. Constant threats are nothing but manipulation to make you do what they desire.
9. He constantly asks you to stay away from other men.
While a little jealousy is typical and sweet, if your partner asks you to steer clear from co-workers, college mates, or ANY men it’s a bad sign, he is taking it too far, trying to own you.