It is not always possessiveness or protectiveness, when it comes to a romantic partner. He might simply be manipulating you in the name of love.
In terms of gaslighting, I define it as, “to implant false and/or distorted narratives that are specially designed or formulated to manipulate a person into a destructive web of deception, loss of control, and the surrender of personal freedom and beliefs of self-worth, self-value, self-esteem, and productivity.”
– Ross Rosenberg
How a Narcissist Can Derail You and how to recognize the admirable traits that could make you vulnerable.
Signs someone is trying to manipulate you: A Narcissist’s Tricks of the Trade
There is a big difference between being loved and being used.
“Until you realize how easy it is for your mind to be manipulated, you remain the puppet of someone else’s game.” ― Evita Ochel
Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in reality, it’s to achieve an ulterior motive.
Restoring your sanity after a manipulator’s gaslighting takes knowledge.