The Magnetic Spell: Why It Takes So Long To Get Over A Psychopath Lover

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Why It Takes Long To Get Over A Psychopath? 5 Warning Reasons

Have you struggled to move on from a toxic relationship? Despite all the red flags, you couldn’t seem to get over a psychopath lover, then you’re not alone.

Many people find themselves caught in the web of a psychopath, and it can take years to fully recover from the experience. But why does it take so long to get over a relationship with a psychopath? Let’s explore the reasons behind this phenomenon.

When you’re in a relationship with a psychopath, things are different. The rules and consequences of a normal relationship don’t apply here. Things get uglier when you break up with one. Especially in the post break up phase.

Here are 5 reasons why it takes so long to get over a psychopath lover

1. You Loved The Psychopath Lover

Whether or not the psychopath had any feelings for you doesn’t change the fact that you loved them. Now, when you love someone so deeply that leaving them completely shatters your life, moving on is quite a challenging task. You gave them everything. Love, attention, care, etc. They meant the whole world for you.

You started placing your happiness in them and expected them to reciprocate. Of course, things didn’t go well, and now that you’re faced with a breakup, it is nothing but immensely traumatic on your end to accept this. But you know that you have to move on, and that makes things all the more difficult.

2. You Became Desperate

Psychopaths are very adept at enticing people. They can make you believe that they are perfect for you and that you will never find someone like them. So you start craving more affection from them. This makes you desperate because you begin to devalue yourself and make them the center of your world.

You need them beside you every minute. The key to your happiness now is in their hands. Psychopaths make you believe that they are the only person to make you feel that way.

So without knowing if they are at all worthy of your love, you start giving everything. Your space, freedom, time, and energy.

Related: 7 Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back

3. You Had To Deal With Triangulation

Psychopaths are suckers for happiness. They enjoy making things complicated and more difficult to solve. The one thing that forever remains constant among psychopaths is the willingness to triangulate a relationship. It doesn’t matter how dedicated you were in the relationship.

No matter how much you try to keep things in order, a psychopath will always indulge in infidelity. They will bring in a third person just to spoil the entire relationship. Psychopaths won’t imply that they’ve lost interest in you, but will play around with the situation.

Psychopathic people play mind games, manipulation tactics to keep you tied to themselves even if you know that they’re betraying you. This is something you had to face in your relationship, because of which you could never really make out if the person loved you or not.

4. You Had To Deal With Pure Negativity

In this fourth stage, you find yourself trapped in their darkness. Here, the true nature of the psychopath is revealed and they start making things worse. Even after knowing that you have unveiled their true nature, they remain unapologetic.

In fact, they start exhibiting more of their manipulative behaviors and sadistic actions. It is as if, everything you thought you knew about the person is a lie. The world seems to flip upside down. Your perception regarding the human mind tends to take a 180-degree turn.

This in turn makes you doubt yourself and the decisions you make in a relationship. Since reality has been altered, so has your belief and the level of trust in people. This mental trauma is hard to bear, and you feel smothered by all the negativity emanating from their actions.

Related: 4 Ways A Psychopath Uses Pathological Lying To Manipulate You

5. Your Soul Was Shattered

When they finally make you feel miserable, your soul starts to crumble. They succeed in destroying your mental health and crush your free will. You feel this immense burden to carry on with life. But at the same time, you begin to question your sanity.

You doubt yourself and want to make things right, but find yourself lacking the vital energy to move on or mend things. Psychopaths are energy parasites who nourish their sadism by feeding on others’ positiveness.

Since they have instilled in you enough doubt to make you feel guilty, your emotional burden starts outweighing your willingness to move on. Thus, it takes much longer to get out of the darkness created by a psychopath.

Related: Narcissist Manipulation Techniques: 10 Manipulative Strategies Used By Narcissists To Dominate You

Recovering from a relationship with a psychopath can be a long and difficult process. The trauma and damage inflicted by these individuals can leave deep scars that require time and effort to heal.

However, with the right support and self-care, it is possible to move forward and build a healthier and happier life. Share your thoughts on the 5 reasons it takes so long to get over a relationship with a psychopath below.

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Ethan Ray

Hi! Ethan here. Someone passionate about human psychology and how it responds to the world around them. Into philosophies of Freud, Jung, Emerson, Thoreau, etc. Encourage positive thinking, humanitarian acts. Love football, long-boarding. Indulge in films, music and liberal arts.

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    Mickey Nash

    Very well written article and exactly what I experienced, the rethinking of everything, humans, etc. I wish I had this to read when I was going through it. I had to depend on myself and a Higher Power and we did come through it stronger and healthier than ever before. My psychopath was the greatest soulmate I ever had as it taught me everything, about love, forgiveness, being true to me…..everything I would not have known… Thank you soulmate, but gotta go…

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