Do you prefer being ‘normal’ than being extraordinary? Would you rather do your work and be done with it instead of leading a project? Then you just might have a delta male personality.
According to the Socio Sexual Hierarchy created by Vox Day (Theodore Robert Beale), the delta male is a normal man who contributes to society and is proud of his contribution. He may not be an extraordinary leader like the alpha, but he gets the work done and makes sure that society functions smoothly.
Let’s take a deep dive and understand what the delta male personality is and what characteristics he has so that you can identify if you are a Delta male or not.
What is a delta male personality?
Delta is the common man. The Average Joe. The John Doe who is forgettable and like every other man you know. However, the delta male personality is marked by hard work, aloofness, resentment and loneliness. They tend to be rather withdrawn and resigned and prefer living a quiet, peaceful life. They may have had an alpha, gamma or sigma personality earlier, but due to some painful or traumatic life experiences, their mindset and personality has changed drastically into a delta male.
Regardless, deltas are typically motivated men who work hard and put in the necessary effort to succeed. Although they want to socially ‘fit in’ at times, their tendency to be resentful, hateful and to hold grudges towards those who wronged them leads to consistent self-sabotage behavior that affects their probabilities to succeed.
They are usually ranked higher on the Socio Sexual Hierarchy and often build relationships with women belonging to their social ranking. However, the delta male personality can create strong boundaries and prevent others from getting close as they want to protect themselves from emotional pain and disappointment from others.
What is the delta male like?
The delta male can be highly introverted and that is why it can be really difficult to know a delta. They are exceptionally private and this is why others are often unable to get familiar with them. Deltas also avoid arguments and confrontation as they are very reserved. The delta male personality has the traits of both alpha and beta males, but they don’t tend to get enough attention. Often a delta male will steer clear of attention as it is likely that they used to be an alpha before, but have detached from the previous social hierarchy for a much quieter life. However, they may alternatively be rather social and accommodating but their social circle might not even notice their presence.
Delta men are matured individuals who have understood that confidence does not come from success and being self-oriented all the time, confidence comes from being true to who you are and from connecting with the people you care about. But they may also suffer from self-esteem issues.
Deltas don’t pretend to be something they are not. Due to their past struggles, they prefer to live a simple life and avoid emotional pain. But this often leaves them feeling empty and lonely. Although they prefer a quieter life, they don’t necessarily seek solitude. When they find the right person, a delta male can be loving and caring in a romantic relationship. They will give more value to the other person as long as they are loved.
Traits of delta male personality
The delta male has a complicated personality. Here are some of the most common delta male traits that can help you identify if you are one –
A. Positive delta male personality traits
Here’s what makes the delta male different from the other male personality types-
1. Deltas are reserved and introverted
Deltas are introverts. One of the most basic traits of a delta male personality is that they keep to themselves. The delta man can be considered as a lone wolf, similar to the sigma man, as they prefer their own company and struggle in social situations. Typically, they avoid social gatherings or parties and prefer to stay home doing what makes them happy. They also tend to flex their creative muscles and pursue their interests. Although the delta male may socialize when they feel like it, they prefer to be distant and detached by choice.
Being introverts, the delta male feels energized by spending time with themselves and may feel mentally and emotionally drained after interacting with others, especially strangers. However, they can be very charming and funny as well.
2. Deltas get things done
Delta male personalities are hard working individuals who take pride in their effort and contributions. They are the ones alphas rely on to get the work done. Deltas are no-nonsense individuals when it comes to their work. They show up on time, do the work they are assigned and go home to pursue their personal interests and hobbies. They do their work with the same motivation every single day and feel content after completing their work.
3. Deltas take pride in their work
Deltas are competent men and take pride in the work they do. They always give their best to any task they are given and strive to finish it on time. However, they can easily become disappointed and lose motivation if the leadership is toxic and hampers their productivity. Delta male personality is closely associated with doing good work which they can be proud of, especially when the work environment supports their enthusiasm.
4. Deltas are not interested in being leaders
Delta males are happy with who they are. While they are motivated to work harder and pursue goals, they don’t necessarily seek leadership positions. Deltas are dedicated to their work and do it competently and effectively. They do their jobs well and stay focused on what they are paid to do. However, they give equal importance to their personal goals, interests and hobbies which serve as an escape from their mundane life.
Delta males feel satisfied and happy as long as they have the opportunity to work with dedication, get paid well and are recognized for their efforts.
5. Deltas seek respect
The delta man wants to be respected for the effort he puts in to do his work with great competence and for the contributions he makes to society. Deltas play a crucial role in the system and when they are not valued, recognized or respected, the system can start to crumble. Deltas add the most value to the workplace and to our society, yet are less rewarded than the alpha male. This is why alpha leaders often tend to identify and reward deltas in the workforce.
6. Deltas give importance to love
For someone who is resigned and reserved, a person with a delta male personality values love and relationships. Being lonely, they seek a romantic partner who they can connect and share their love and affection with. Behind their resigned exterior, delta males want to be loved and cared for and want to do the same for their partners. However, their lack of self-esteem prevents them from pursuing women, limiting their romantic opportunities. This lack of romance further fuels their bitterness and resentment.
But delta males can still attract women and build healthy relationships as everyone has some attractive qualities. Their individual and unique traits and characteristics can still attract women, build relationships and start families. While the majority of women may not perceive the delta male personality as attractive as alphas or sigmas, some women may want to engage with deltas as they are average. When it comes to relationships, average is stable and safe. Moreover, deltas are less likely to cheat as they are usually not noticed by women. This quality of being faithful and content with their current relationship is the core for building a healthy relationship and family.
B. Negative delta male personality traits
Here are certain delta male traits that hold them back from being happy and successful –
7. Deltas are secretive
The delta male personality is very private and combined with their introverted nature, they tend to be highly secretive. They build strong boundaries around them to keep others off and protect themselves from getting hurt. Although they can be perceived as shy or stuck-up, deltas are skeptical of others and often avoid letting new people come into their lives.
A delta man will never reveal their real thoughts and emotions before others, until he truly trusts the other person. Although they find it hard to trust others, deltas will open up to someone once they prove their loyalty and honesty.
8. Deltas have low self-esteem
The delta male is burdened with resentment and poor self-esteem. As a delta man is likely to have been hurt in the past, they focus strongly on self-preservation instead of being their authentic self. Due to their troubled past, they struggle with their sense of self-worth since their childhood and grow up with low self-esteem.
However, some delta males, who may have been an alpha or sigma male earlier, may become deltas due to some unfortunate events. This can also affect how they see themselves and make them lack the confidence needed to get back to their previous personality. This lack of self-confidence and change in personality can affect their sense of self and affect their self-esteem.
9. Deltas are resentful
Due to their painful past experiences, delta males often tend to be bitter and displeased. They hold grudges against people who have disrespected them and wronged them. Deltas are highly resentful and often blame others for their own problems instead of finding answers and solutions within themselves. They will hang on to negative emotions towards their ex partners or people they used to be friends with, which can lead to toxic and unhealthy relationship dynamics. Deltas often use their negative experiences with others to remain unhappy instead of letting go of their grudges and moving on.
10. Deltas are self-sabotaging
Delta men often sabotage their own opportunities and relationships by holding on to grudges, blaming others for their own drawbacks and by pushing loved ones away. They tell themselves that their life is controlled by external factors and do not put in the necessary effort to change their situation. Due to their aloofness and disinterest in socialization, people with the delta male personality are unable to build healthy relationships and as a result a person with a delta male personality is usually unable to trust others.
11. Deltas aren’t competitive
Even though delta men are hardworking they are not too focused on their careers. They are not known to compete with others in the workplace to get a promotion or to rise up to leadership roles. They are content in their existing job roles and usually do not seek more power or responsibility at the workplace. They do not require fancy job titles or managerial positions to be happy in life. They would rather pursue their own hobbies and interests than put in extra hours at work.
Contrarily, the delta man may hate their job and the work they do and may not feel the need to drive their career forward. Due to their low self-esteem and shift in personality, they may not want more out of their career believing that they don’t deserve any better or are incapable of leadership roles.
12. Deltas are lonely
Although introverts are naturally inclined to be loners, the delta male personality may struggle with loneliness. As they used to be alpha or beta males earlier, they are used to being the center of attention in social gatherings. However, as their personality has changed, deltas have become reserved and would rather choose to sit quietly in the corner at a party. Due to their aloof and detached nature, most people tend to stay away from them.
However, this can make the delta male feel very lonely, which makes him even more hateful, resentful, angry and bitter. Although they may believe that they are happy alone and do not need friends or a romantic partner, deep down they crave for connection but are unable to build close relationships due to lack of trust.
Characteristics of delta male personality
Here are some other common yet striking features and characteristics of a delta male –
- They can move across the Socio Sexual Hierarchy
- They don’t care about pleasing alphas
- They don’t necessarily want to fit in with the crowd
- They are self-aware and assertive
- They are not driven to improve themselves
- They are insecure in relationships and are dominated by their partners
- They have a victim mentality
- They prefer to relax and pursue their interests
- They are vengeful and vindictive
Delta male personality in the workplace
Deltas are regular guys who find pleasure in contributing to social development by doing their work. The delta male personality is not known for their desire to lead or compete with others to gain status, power, or financial gains. When in a professional or social setting, they would rather go with the popular opinions than share their own. They believe being average is their greatest strength and tend to seek stability and consistency in their careers. They are responsible, hard-working, reliable, punctual, and effective. Deltas get the work done on time and keep our society running.
Although they feel proud of their contributions, they don’t necessarily seek validation from others or feel happy when praised and complimented by others. Deltas don’t wish to be the best in what they do, they just wish to do their best. Finishing a task effectively is what makes them feel happy and satisfied as they feel content with the process of doing the work. They don’t feel the need to strive harder to achieve a better position, instead they seek stability. Deltas are not known to be insecure and are typically content with who they are.
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Do you have the delta male personality?
Now that you have a better understanding about the delta male personality, do you think you are a delta? The socio-sexual hierarchy is designed to help us gain self-awareness and understand ourselves better. If you are lonely or unhappy with who you are right now, you can always take the effort to improve yourself and move up the hierarchy.
Be more open to people and opportunities, let go of past trauma, cope with your negative emotions, and take responsibility for your life. Learn new skills that interest you, build new connections but learn to find happiness in solitude.
While you may face some challenges in life, like we all do, being a delta male is not necessarily a good or bad thing. Make sure to avoid self-sabotaging behavior, welcome optimism & positivity, and make the most of your personality to succeed and thrive in life.
Work on yourself, improve your self-esteem and remember that you always have the power to change yourself, if you want to.
Gentlemen, say goodbye to your pain and live happy.
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