“Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times.” – Aeschylus
Have you ever wondered how many choices you make throughout your day? Every single day we make innumerable decisions. Think about it.
What do we wear?
What do we eat?
How do we get to work?
What to do tell your boss?
What emails do we send?
How do we meet our deadlines?
Where do we go for lunch?
Do we go for happy hours with coworkers?
Or should we go home?
What bills do we pay today?
What chores do we need to do?
Do we hang out with friends?
Or do we Netflix and chill?
What do we have for dinner?
Do we go to bed?
Or scroll through Instagram one more time?
See what I mean? But how many of these choices are making you happy? When thinking of choices, do we keep our happiness in mind?
Do you choose happiness?
It is nearly impossible to stay positive and happy amidst the daily grind muddled with obligations and challenges. Most of us tend to lose sight of what is actually important to us in the long run. Hence, it’s crucial to take a step back at times to evaluate how your daily choices affect your happiness and your overall well-being.
The most important choice that we make each day is whether we allow unexpected and negative things to affect our mood and emotions. What positive people do is they choose happiness despite what life offers them.
“I think happiness is a choice. If you feel yourself being happy and can settle in to the life choices you make, then it’s great. It’s really, really great. I swear to God, happiness is the best makeup.” – Drew Barrymore
Being happy is a choice that you need to make. You have the power to choose if you wish to be happy or upset in life. Life is hard and unfair. That goes for each one of us. But you have the opportunity to choose how you want to live.
You can either be ruled by your thoughts and emotions, get emotionally and psychologically affected by unexpected circumstances in life and choose to be miserable or you can choose happiness despite your circumstances.
Living a happy life is a choice. You don’t need to rely on anyone else or take approval from others to decide how you will feel.
The fact is, our happiness is not dependent on how others act, behave or what they say. You cannot experience true happiness through external validation or affirmation. Of course, you can find inspiration from other people, but happiness can only be experienced from inside. Unless you decide to feel happy, nothing will be able to make you happy.
But can we really choose happiness? Yes, you can. It’s about developing the right mindset. When you realize that unexpected and unpleasant circumstances are an inevitable part of life, you accept reality as it is. You bring your focus into the present moment, appreciate all the good things you have in life and figure out how you can make your life better. This is the secret to true happiness. If you don’t choose happiness then you’re only choosing to be unhappy. After you choose to be happy, you need to make the right choices every day that will help you live a healthy and happy life. Happiness is an attitude of your mind.
Positive choices happy people make daily
“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” – Mildred Barthel
Do you want to choose happiness? Here are 17 choices that you need to make every day to lead a healthier and happier life, regardless of the circumstances.
1. Practice mindfulness
The practice of mindfulness is to bring your awareness to the present moment. It is your ability to understand where you are, what you’re doing and what is around you without judging or overreacting to the circumstances. However, focusing on the present moment requires strong willpower as different aspects of our daily lives tend to distract and confuse us. Being mindful allows you to appreciate the present moment as it unfolds. It makes you aware, centered and grounded so that you can avoid unnecessary worries and anxiety.
2. Love yourself
This can be really hard for some people. I know. But what other option do you have? If you can’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you? If you can’t love yourself, how can you someone else? Self-love forms the core of your happiness. Accept who you are and respect yourself above everything else. Acknowledge your flaws and focus on working yourself one step at a time. Understand that you are not defined by your emotions, behaviors or bad decisions. We all make mistakes. However, it is crucial to know where you have gone wrong and learn and grow from them. Loving yourself means working on your imperfections while accepting yourself the way you are. This is a simple choice that all happy people make without being told.
3. Be creative
Have you ever felt sad while being creative? Have you ever seen anyone cry while cooking, dancing, singing, knitting, painting or writing? No. Happy people chose to spend their time in being more creative. They often experiment with their creative talents and even try to gain some new creative skills. This allows them to create something truly astonishing that makes them happier than they were. The true joy of creation is in the process of creating. Creators create because they love the process, not for seeking external validation. Of course, when you create something for the love of it, accolades will flow in from all areas. Creativity can help you find an escape from the demands of work, society, family and even relationships and help you let go of all negativity.
Sometimes choosing to be happy can be as easy as taking a deep breath. Whenever you feel overwhelmed or think that things are getting out of hand, just slow down for a while, take a mental pause and breathe. Take a slow deep breath in and a slow deep breath out. Deep breathing lowers stress levels and tells your brain to relax and calm down. It will allow you to reduce tension and help you to shift your focus from the negative to the positive. Breathing deeply will also supply more oxygen to your brain, organs and body parts which will make you feel better. The better you feel and the less stressed you are, the happier you will become.
5. Focus on victories
Every single day can be a real challenge for us with incessant obstacles and problems. Yet there are certain moments in the most chaotic days that make us feel better, even if for a moment. Happy people understand the importance of appreciating these moments and taking their wins. Didn’t get stuck in traffic today? Take the win. Your laptop didn’t crash all day? Take the win. Enjoyed your lunch? Take the win. Finally managed to spend some quality time with your family? Take the win. By consciously focusing on the positive moments in your life on a daily basis you can find happiness in the smallest things. These small things give us the strength to go through our day and focus on the bigger wins.
6. Don’t take it personally
“I believe happiness is a choice. Some days it is a very difficult choice.” – Steve Gleason
Bad days are a reality of life. You can’t avoid it no matter how much you want to. People will behave rudely, things will turn out unexpectedly, you will get ignored, meetings will get scraped, dates will be canceled, they won’t reply to your texts, life will happen. But you have to realize that it is not your fault. God is not isolating you and making your life miserable regardless of how it might seem. Don’t keep high expectations from life and do not assume how people will or should react. Happy people understand that there are good days and there are bad days. They choose not to take everything that goes wrong personally. They simply focus on doing their best and focusing on the next opportunity.
7. Appreciate beauty
The world can be a frustratingly chaotic place. It can be loud, ugly and brutal that often leads to heartbreak and depression. However, the world is also the most beautiful place we know. Spend some time in nature and you will realize how truly beautiful our world is. Take a walk through a park or go for a hike and you will experience the gentle calming effects of nature. The truth is, our world is both ugly and beautiful at the same time. It’s what we focus on is what matters the most. Choose to seek the beauty that’s present all around, whether in nature, in your pet or in the smile of a child. And if you still can’t find beauty, simply take a look in the mirror. You’ll see the most beautiful being in the world.
8. Let go of the past
The past can lead to various unpleasant memories, thoughts, and emotions. When we dwell in the past, our mind gets wrapped up in something that we have no control over. Regardless of how much you think you can never change what has already happened. Happy people understand this and make sure they don’t dwell on the negative experiences from the past. By letting go of past experiences and memories you can set yourself free from unnecessary worries and anxiety that are affecting your present moment. Being happy is about acknowledging the past, learning and growing from it and opening yourself up to opportunities and possibilities in the future. Since you’re not a time traveler, you can’t live in your past and experience your present simultaneously.
9. Take charge
When things go wrong, stop looking for people to blame and take responsibility for yourself. Try to analyze how you could have done things differently and figure out what you need to do next to fix the error. Sometimes you will mess things up and sometimes others will. This is how it goes. Happy people choose not to blame themselves or others for any mistake. They take power and take full responsibility for their actions and outcomes. Taking responsibility will empower you and help you plan the next course of action.
10. Listen more, speak less
Speaking your mind is important, but it’s even more important that you listen to what others have to say. Not only you will understand different perspectives, but you will also be able to learn something new. Keeping your mouth closed more often will make you more understanding and compassionate as you listen to others’ stories and their viewpoints. The happy person is confident enough to keep his opinions to himself unless it is required for him to express himself. He understands the value of lending a listening ear and the importance of voicing his opinions at the right times. He speaks only to share knowledge or to add to a discussion to educate others. Moreover, by speaking more sparingly, you can avoid certain negative people and remove yourself from getting sucked into an unnecessary argument. This is the silent road to happiness that we choose on a daily basis.
11. Be forgiving
Throughout our day we encounter many people who get on our nerves and know exactly how to annoy us. Rage and anger can instantly replace the peace and happiness inside you and drastically change your mood. This is why it is crucial that you practice becoming a more forgiving person. It won’t come easily, but if you are determined enough, you will find the strength to forgive people who have wronged and instead focus on improving your life. Holding on to frustration, anger or sadness will not serve you in any way. By letting go of such negative emotions and by forgiving even the worst person you can meet, you will choose happiness.
12. Smile and laugh
Every day finds reasons to smile. Look for opportunities to laugh out loud. Laugh your heart out. Laugh until you can’t breathe and your face turns red. Laugh at your coworkers and yourself. Laugh with your friends. Smile at a random stranger. Smile at that girl or guy you found attractive at the subway. Smile at your boss. And mean it. Smiling and laughter can have unbelievable effects on your mood and can instantly lift you up if you are feeling low. Happy people choose to smile more every day. They opt to laugh at every opportunity they get. You can do it too. It’s really easy.