1. Visit your past sometimes, but always come back alone
One of the life changing moves to make is talking to your past, facing it with all its scars and marks. Get in peace with your history and accept it. Visit your past every now and then to remind yourself that you’ve been through all this and still survived, but always return to your present moment ALONE.
Greet your past saying “I cannot change you and I accept you, you had your turn and you cannot feed on my time again. With your good and bad, I thank you for making me what I have become”.
Doing this, you will keep remembering the lesson and you will kill your fear of past ghosts.
2. Take the wake-up call
There are moments in your journey when you’ve done all you could do, yet will be lost and confused, sinking yourself in pain and tragedy deliberately, as you are hesitated to take certain decisions, afraid that you might be wrong.
At this exact moment, signs interfere to save you, telling you what to do, and which way to go. Cutting through your doubts, watch the signs. Never reject that wake-up call, as the caller might be your dream, instinct, or intuition. Maybe the universe would kindly put that one sign in your way as a person, a piece of information, or an incident. Do not snooze it.
3. Embrace the blue drop by
It is ok to live the blue mood sometimes; you have tried the other colors so give the blue the chance and go with it until it fades. Come on, even rainbows got blue embedded, and as rainbow never lasts, no single color lasts forever. Humans got eyes that clearly define all colors, and so you have to define the blue times, live them, honor them, and wave them goodbye when they are over.
Thank the blue for it makes you cherish the other colors of the rainbow.
Remember, you are human.
4. NO; you are not allowed
That’s the one thing you are never allowed to do at any point of your journey; you are not allowed to compromise your dignity, you are not allowed to adjust your values, you are not allowed to adapt to things you can change, you are not allowed to miss any person who won’t miss you back.
The value of something/someone to you should move in equal and direct proportion to your value to that something/someone. This applies to people, work, habits, memories, places and anything you might get attached to, whether you have to let it go or will have it staying. Always keep the balanced value equation. No one and nothing should have an upper hand over you.
5. Have a WATER-MINDSET
“We are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit” — Aristotle
Observing water, you will find nothing adapts better, the one element that never crashes or collapses, unless frozen, it will break. Follow the water stream inside you, you will always successfully adapt and you will never crash. If you insist on freezing where you are, you will simply break as easily as ice. The body has limitations, while the mind never does. Control your mind and you will control your life. Be picky about your thoughts, create your adaptive mindset and nothing will beat you.
6. Omit Stupid & Mean off your circle
Imagine how your life would get better having your world free of stupid people and mean minds.
This will not happen overnight for sure, it will take you time and several experiences to be able to identify those damaging calibers and be able to cleverly eliminate their existence off your circle. Stupid people will never have thoughts that intersect with yours, will never help you advance in any way. It is very important to stay around people who are equally smart to you, if not smarter to learn from.
You are not here for stupid people.
Mean minds are sick minds that will just drag you deeper into their world, and by the time they might manipulate your own way of thinking, making you believe that their way is the success road. Never melt into what is mean or what you might even feel is mean, no matter how exciting it might be sugarcoated.