Do you want to outperform people with high IQ? Then you must focus on improving your emotional intelligence sometimes referred to as EQ (“emotional quotient”) because IQ is not the sole source of success.
According to Psychologists Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer, an emotionally intelligent person has the ability to perceive emotions, reason emotions, understand and manage emotions.
Emotional intelligence has become a hot topic after the release of Daniel Goleman’s book “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.”This is the skill most people are trying to master to become successful in psychology, healthcare, education, business, workplace, and many other areas. A person with high EQ not only has a strong understanding of personal emotions but also understands others’ emotions like an empath, communicate with them, make decisions, and solve problems.
Here are 18 signs you are emotionally intelligent
1. You’re Curious about People
People who are curious to learn and improve their lives have success stories to tell. Emotionally intelligent people are passionately curious about everything in life. Their learning mindset helps them learn more and grow more. Such knowledge acquisition over time and intellectual investment lead to high EQ, which positively impacts every aspect of life like relationships. Hence, they don’t give up quickly, even when everyone else has given up.
2. Don’t Limit Your Joy
Emotionally intelligent people are masters of their happiness. They know whether they are right or wrong, so they don’t seek validation from other people. Their pleasure and satisfaction don’t depend on other people’s opinions. Their self-worth comes from within!
3. You Have a Robust Emotional Vocabulary
Emotional vocabulary is the ability to say something more than just good or bad when someone asks “how are you feeling?” Emotionally intelligent people can accurately identify pleasant and unpleasant feelings and emotions and use specific words to express themselves. For instance, they may say they are feeling ‘motivated or optimistic’ instead of saying ‘I’m feeling better’. People with low EQs cannot do this and lack the extensive vocabulary to verbalize their state of mind. It is important to master your emotions because unlabeled emotions are the cause of stress and undesired actions.
4. Aware Of Strengths and Weaknesses
Emotionally intelligent people demonstrate a high level of internal and external self-awareness and are well-aware of their strengths and weaknesses. When facing stimuli, they know how to manage themselves proactively and reactively that enables them to succeed. They use their strengths to full advantage and prevent their weakness from holding them back.
5. Good Judge of Character
People with high EQ are empathetic, understand emotions, and highly curious about their surroundings and people in life. They have high self and social awareness, which makes it easy for them to read human behavior and their intentions. Being an exceptional judge of character, they can unveil the hidden motives of people. Thus, emotionally intelligent people can easily get through messy situations.
6. Difficult to Offend
Having a strong sense of who they are and what they want in life, emotionally intelligent people are tough to offend. Trying to belittle them is a futile attempt because they don’t feel the need to defend or explain themselves. Being confident and open-minded, they know how to draw a line between personal and professional life. People with high EQ know how to handle constructive and destructive criticism.
7. Let Go of Mistakes
Emotionally intelligent people accept their mistakes and move on. They don’t brood on ‘what if I did that’ sort of thinking. They learn from their mistakes and prepare better plans for better outcomes in the future. Not repeating the same mistake twice is what pushes them towards success. Dwelling on past mistakes only adds to stress and clog your mind with negativity so much that you fail to focus on new ideas and improvements.