Intelligence doesn’t have to come from doing fast maths or being street smart. There are all kinds of intelligence and now psychologists are thinking of a new kind – emotional intelligence. It’s a really complicated issue but it has already aroused the curiosity of the scientific community.
Emotions are a part of all of us and it has significant control over who we are. But in the past, we have not really paid much attention to it. Now, emotions are revealing a whole new world and so scientists have come up with a new type of intelligence. As the name suggests – it’s not something that can easily be measured. It’s highly subjective and not quantifiable. But it’s quite a surprising term that will shock you:
What is Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability of one person to understand the feelings of another person.
It’s almost implicit, it comes to them naturally and the better they are able to understand it, the more intelligent they are. And this emotional intelligence is really special. An emotionally intelligent person knows when you are craving for a tight little hug, even if you are keeping up a stern front.
So, it’s clear that emotional intelligence is really a complicated issue and it’s not really that easy to understand. No wonder that scientists are scratching their heads to find a solution to it, trying to quantify it in some way. A huge and difficult formula would be great to be able to know a person’s emotional intelligence just like IQ tests work. But it doesn’t work that way – some say that you can either have emotional intelligence or you don’t – there’s no middle ground.
A way to measure it
Since it’s really hard to have objectivity when there is the question of emotional intelligence – there are personality tests that can come to our rescue. There’s an easy visual test that can tell you if you are actually emotionally intelligent or not.
The rules are simple – there’s an image below which is an optical illusion – you have to look at it and see which image catches your eye the first time. Once you know what you spotted first, read what each of the glimpses indicates about your emotional intelligence. Be ready to be amazed:
What did you see first ? Find out the meaning below
1. Spotting the grass
If you spotted the grass first when you saw the picture then you are a person who admires and care for the people who are present in your life.
You care for them quite a lot and some of them know while others may not really perceive it that way. But that’s all right. What matters is that they are fine and that is all you want – you don’t really need any affirmation or credit for anything.
However, there’s a problem – you keep concentrating on the grass for far too long that you fail to spot the forest that is growing behind it. You lack complete objectivity. As a person, you will not score really high on emotional intelligence but you do have your strong points.
Unlike many people, you are not afraid of asking for help when you need assistance. You also know when you want help when you are lost or have hurt someone – these are places most people will need help with but they are not willing to ask explicitly. That’s where you do it wrong – you ask and show that you are lost. People are more willing to help you because of that.
2. Seeing the girl
While looking at the picture, if you spot the girl first then you are the type of person who puts the thoughts and feelings of others before your own.
Your emotional intelligence is really sharp and you are more capable of empathizing with others. You know about your sharp emotional intelligence and you don’t mind relying on it whenever you are in an emotionally tough spot. However, if you continue to put others needs and wants ahead of you and don’t really care about what you need, it could turn out to be an exhausting affair for you.
You will lose out on yourself and this could be quite frustrating. After all, we need ourselves too, sometimes. You really have to be careful when you are depleting your energy for someone else – keep a check on your emotions and make sure you don’t invest more than necessary. The more you bring your emotional skills on the field, into action, the more you will feel tired by all of it. But you are emotionally valuable – don’t let the exhaustion get to you.