8 Paradoxical Truths That Have Revolutionized My Life

Paradoxical Truths That Have Revolutionized My Life

If a man says he is lying, is he telling the truth?  ~ Epimenides

I still remember the first time I ever heard a paradox: I was 14 years old, reading a book, and came across Socrates’ famous quote; “I know that I know nothing”.

At that moment something “clicked” in my brain.  Up until that point I had held all thoughts as absolute. I was convinced that once you believed in something, its opposite would be automatically discarded. But after reading these 6 famous words of Socrates I suddenly realized something important: two seemingly contradicting statements can be equally correct.

How bizarre, and what an odd faux pas of logic! The paradox both felt like a glitch, a logical slip-up, but deep down beyond the veneer of the rationale it felt right. It felt undeniable, irrevocably true. I was fascinated.

The wisdom of paradoxes is that they transcend our thought system, they are in tune not just with logical intelligence, but with existential wisdom that is at the roots of every deep and meaningful personal discovery.

Up until this day, the deeper I’ve ventured into the inner exploration of myself, the journey of Involution towards self-understanding, the more wisdom I found in paradoxes.  In this article, I will explore some of the most essential paradoxes that have revolutionized my life and the way I see things.

Here are 8 paradoxical truths that have revolutionized my life:

1. The Pursuit of Happiness Makes You Unhappy.

America’s Declaration of Independence declares that it is in every man’s birthright to seek: “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness”.

One important thing I have learned on my journey of inner-exploration is that happiness can never be pursued.  The more you chase it, the more it runs away.  Pursuing happiness makes you anxious and frustrated.  In fact, happiness only comes when you’re relaxed when you’re not pursuing it, and it’s always the by-product of another activity – usually something that brings meaning or joy to our lives.

2. Freedom Can Be Enslaving.

In the words of Russian poet Aleksey Khomyakov:

Modern Society in its decay releases every individual to the freedom of his own impotence.

Freedom is often a burden for people. Why? It’s because freedom provides just as much frustration as it alleviates. When you are entirely responsible for your actions, it places the whole blame of your decisions on your own individual shoulders.

In the Western world, we all have endless freedom and opportunities, and the pressure to make the most of all the thousands of possibilities open to us can be quite intimidating and imprisoning.

3. Words Are Spoken By The Listener.

All too often we get upset because other people break our trust or misunderstand us. But the problem we have is that we tend to assume that whatever we say is perfectly understood and perfectly projected, reflecting our thoughts and feelings in fine precision.

The truth is that words are the most complex, arbitrary, relative and symbolic forms of communication. Furthermore, each of us has different definitions based upon our own unique experiences and associations with each word we come across. So in essence… you may provide the words, but the listener always provides the definitions.

4. Solitude Makes You More Companionable.

I often find that many people become very surprised by how quickly and comfortably they open up to me about personal matters in our first encounter. Why? The secret lies in how comfortable you are in your own aloneness.

People who can’t be ‘alone’, feel ‘lonely’ and use each other to fill their inner voids. People who aren’t comfortable with inner Solitude impatiently wait for their turn to speak in conversations, or are anxious and nervous when there are prolonged periods of silence.  Being comfortable in Solitude centers you, and people can sense this in your presence, in essence making you more companionable.