1. A narcissist will make you feel crazy while someone with anxiety already doesn’t trust themselves.
A narcissist is never to blame and someone with anxiety will always be the one to apologize.
When a victim takes responsibility for unkind actions of a narcissist it feeds into their ego and how much control they have.
Someone with anxiety tends to apologize for things they don’t even need to. Someone with anxiety is a narcissist’s easiest prey.
2. A narcissist doesn’t want to change while someone with anxiety constantly tries to improve.
A narcissist is never wrong. Not only do they think they are incapable of change but they don’t want to change. They want everyone else around them to change so it benefits them.
So when someone with anxiety is trying to improve and get better a narcissist will see that and try and get them to revert back to self-doubt and lack of confidence. Because if someone with anxiety can overcome themselves then they will be able to overcome a narcissist and that’s when they lose their power.
3. A narcissist will pick any fight and someone with anxiety is always anticipating a fight.
You never actually know when a narcissist will lose their shit. And someone with anxiety expects really bad fights that result in name calling and someone leaving. A narcissist will leave which triggers abandonment issues when you have anxiety. You suddenly start clinging to people and fear fights that lead to ends.
4. A narcissist uses fear to control the situation and someone with anxiety is always afraid.
Someone with anxiety constantly walks on eggshells because they never actually know what they are going to walk into and if they will have to go into defense mode. Someone with anxiety is always nervous. The phone rings. They have to answer. If they don’t they’ll get called 12 more times. Then they’ll get threatened. Then they’ll get something taken away. A narcissist will use threats when someone does not act accordingly. So someone with anxiety is constantly on edge with every little thing.
5. A narcissist uses the tactic of manipulation and someone with anxiety folds.
A narcissist wants you to do something and they get you to do it. It’s not even about the task they are asking it’s more because they asked you. Rather than fight, someone with anxiety does what is asked of them and a narcissist checks it off as a win because everything is about keeping score with them.
6. You point out a narcissist flaw and they tell you-you’re too sensitive.
A narcissist doesn’t have flaws. It’s everyone else who does.
7. A narcissist will deny things that have happened while someone with anxiety will hold on tight to the pain.
You think back to something in the past that might have been traumatizing and they easily forget the moments where they didn’t come out looking good. When someone with anxiety looks back at the past, it’s often accurate because it hurt them so much. But instead of actually healing and moving on, they hear something like, “that never happened.”
8. A narcissist will pick you apart while someone with anxiety already picks themselves apart and is an easy victim.
A narcissist will groom insecurity within its victim to a point where they don’t even have to be the ones tearing them down anymore. They hold you to these unrealistic and unattainable standards that no one can reach. Someone with anxiety tries so hard to be good enough then picks themselves apart and people wonder why don’t they have more confidence. When someone is tearing you down every chance they get and making you feel horrible about who you are because it doesn’t match up to their standard good luck walking away even a little sure of yourself.
9. You blame a narcissist for something and they direct it back to you.
That time they hit you. That time they said something horrible. That time they lost it on you for no reason other than they couldn’t control their emotions, it was your fault because you triggered them to act that way.