For a narcissist, being in a relationship with someone with an anxiety disorder is the best possible thing. Most of the time, a narcissist deliberately chooses a person with an anxiety disorder as their victim, because they know very well that they will be able to feed on their insecurities and fears and make them do whatever they want.
A person with an anxiety disorder has all those things that a narcissist needs to trap in their web of manipulation, lies, deceit and abuse. Believe it or not, there are many connections between a narcissist and the anxious person they choose as their partner.
Here Are 17 Connections Between A Narcissist And Their Victim With Anxiety Disorder
1. A narcissist will make you feel crazy while someone with anxiety already doesn’t trust themselves.
A narcissist is never to blame and someone with anxiety will always be the one to apologize. When a victim takes responsibility for the unkind actions of a narcissist it feeds into their ego and how much control they have.
Someone with anxiety tends to apologize for things they don’t even need to. Someone with anxiety is a narcissist’s easiest prey.
2. A narcissist doesn’t want to change while someone with anxiety constantly tries to improve.
A narcissist is never wrong. Not only do they think they are incapable of change but they don’t want to change. They want everyone else around them to change so it benefits them.
So when someone with anxiety is trying to improve and get better a narcissist will see that and try and get them to revert back to self-doubt and lack of confidence. Because if someone with anxiety can overcome themselves then they will be able to overcome a narcissist and that’s when they lose their power.
3. A narcissist will pick any fight and someone with anxiety is always anticipating a fight.
You never actually know when a narcissist will lose their shit. And someone with anxiety expects really bad fights that result in name-calling and someone leaving. A narcissist will leave which triggers abandonment issues when you have anxiety. You suddenly start clinging to people and fear fights that lead to ends.
4. A narcissist uses fear to control the situation and someone with anxiety is always afraid.
Someone with anxiety constantly walks on eggshells because they never actually know what they are going to walk into and if they will have to go into defense mode. Someone with anxiety is always nervous. The phone rings. They have to answer. If they don’t they’ll get called 12 more times. Then they’ll get threatened. Then they’ll get something taken away.
A narcissist will use threats when someone does not act accordingly. So someone with anxiety is constantly on edge with every little thing.
5. A narcissist uses the tactic of manipulation and someone with anxiety folds.
A narcissist wants you to do something and they get you to do it. It’s not even about the task they are asking, it’s more because they asked you. Rather than fight, someone with anxiety does what is asked of them and a narcissist checks it off as a win because everything is about keeping score with them.
6. You point out a narcissist flaw and they tell you – you’re too sensitive.
A narcissist doesn’t have flaws. It’s everyone else who does.