Outgoing people with anxious minds face havoc misunderstandings for which they have to struggle a lot.
People often hold certain biases about anxious people. They believe that anxious people can’t be outgoing, straightforward or social and vice versa. This increases the growing chances of misunderstanding around anxious people.
Anxiety is a contrast to their big, bold personalities. Strangers would never guess it. We never know when to fight or flight, and our self-angst is maxed out.
We are often the life of the party but can also be mind-numbingly introspective, questioning everything and anything happening around us. We can be dancing away from our stress but could be observant about the other people at the party too.
Here are the 11 struggles of having an outgoing personality but an anxious mind:
1. Normal day usually goes something like this:
Anxiety: Okay but what if…?
Me: Homie we went over this a thousand times and we totally resolved it.
Anxiety: Yeah but I’ve looked at it from a new angle and there are like 15 more reasons why you should worry about it.
Me: Go on.
2. A kind of love-hate relationship with people.
Their over-thinking and apprehensive nature does not let them immediately trust in someone. In fact, this makes them extremely selective of our friends.
But once they have formed a circle, They keep it genuine and committed.
3. Very few close friends among a bunch of friends.
People with outgoing personalities are mostly surrounded by very few genuinely close people to share their personal weirdness with.
They could be surrounded by a sea of people but still like to spend quality time with only one special person.
4. Easy to talk and connect with people
They can be charming creatures and choose to grace a party because they are the life of it.
While socializing they give the best. People then are entirely unaware of their anxious core.
5. Starts the day with the overthinking
“What exactly did I say to the guy at the bar yesterday after I was drunk?” “Did I flirt too much?” “Was my lipstick matching with my dress?” “What’s my name?” “Where am I?”
However trivial the thing might be, people with an anxious mind will end up thinking about it.
6. Smallest things will override their nerves.
Whether it’s picking up our dry cleaning, finishing a project for work or making a call to our doctor, just the thought of having to deal with it makes our minds race.
The thought “Are we doing it right?” keeps us lost.
7. Dating is hard
They are perceived as weird beings by their partners making dating hard for them. It becomes very difficult for us to not be overprotective, over-concerned and over-sensitive too!
We always have to juggle between our hobby (overthinking) and our boyfriend/girlfriend. And we would surely end up choosing our hobby over him/her any day.
8. Often lost in thoughts
Just let us know where you are, or we will end up thinking so many things in our head.
It is very difficult for us to put our thoughts in control. We might end up thinking that you are cheating on us or just stuck in a bad situation.
9. Even the smallest gestures make us melt
We tend to be overwhelmed very easily, so anything you do to make our life easier is greatly appreciated.
Picking us up for a date, playing with our hair when we’re watching a movie, calling to see how we’re feeling or making us a cup of tea comes with the highest of thanks. We will never take your gestures for granted.
10. We’re hard on ourselves
We are always gripped by the feeling that there’s more that we should be, or could be, doing in our life.
We always feel like we are never enough and we are lagging behind. Blame it on our over-imaginative mind.