The method of grey rock has been known to be one of the most effective ways of dealing with a narcissist and their abuse. But sometimes, grey rock doesn’t always work as well as you would hope.
There is a much deeper truth to grey rock to really be able to detach and no longer be triggered by a narcissist.
Traditional grey rock may not be as effective to stop an abuser abusing you as you think.
Narcissists know how to get to you, so it can be very hard to just act flat line when they hit your weak spot or go for what is going to incite you into feeling devastated, heartbroken, dismayed, or even betrayed.
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I’m so looking forward to sharing with you what traditional grey rock is and why it may not be as effective as you think to stop an abuser from abusing you.
Also, why there is a much deeper truth to grey rock to really be able to detach and no longer be triggered by a narcissist, and how to be able to not react, be empowered, and defuse the power the narcissist has been using against you so that you can parallel parent successfully, if you have children, or be able to handle any narcissist that you can’t go No Contact with
All right, let’s begin.
What Is Traditional Grey Rock?
Let’s have a look at what traditional grey rock is and why it may not be as effective to stop an abuser abusing you as you think.
So traditional grey rock is about granting no energy. It’s about monosyllables when you answer, and it’s about not having any emotional content in your replies. It’s about being flatline, really boring even, in the way that you answer, with very little inflection and just you granting no emotional energy. That’s what grey rock is all about.
The truth about grey rock is, you may be way too triggered to even be able to pretend to be grey rocking because we know narcissists hit your weak spot, they go for what is going to incite you into feeling devastated, heartbroken, dismayed, or even betrayed.
They know how to get to you, so it can be very hard to just act flatline. Even if you do act grey rock, if you are really trying as hard as you can to be flatlined and it even seems it’s coming across like that, you may be shocked to find out that even though you’re pulling back and detaching and you’re offering no energy at all, that the abuse is continuing and it still keeps coming at you.
The Deeper Truth About Grey Rock
Why is there a much deeper truth to grey rock and what is it to really be able to detach and no longer be triggered by a narcissist? The deeper truth to grey rock is narcissistic abuse is an energetic phenomenon.
Even if you’re doing grey rock on the surface, there is still a psychic vandalization phenomenon going on. This is about the narcissist sucking energy from you at a psychic level.
What it means is that if you have any wounds and traumas, which we do, that the narcissist is targeting and inciting within you, that you are going to get triggered. You’re going to feel this pain and this fear inside of you, this emotional distress, this emotional dis-ease that the narcissist is using, that energetic hit, your fear and pain to power up and feed off.
What happens in traditional grey rock is that in many cases people just think that detaching and offering no emotional energy is going to make a narcissist desist and is going to help them heal and move on with their life. In many, many cases people who are just working with grey rock and modified contact still don’t heal and the attacks can continue.