What Women Who’ve Been Hurt Too Many Times Do Without Realizing?
Having your heart broken over and over again can change the way you look at people, relationships, and at times even yourself.
Heartbreak changes us and affects us. We grow a different perspective of love and become extra cautious. We behave differently, we act differently and we react differently and all these changes are evident from our actions. We start doing the things we do unknowingly but the reason behind the changes is nothing but the pain men we dated put us through.
These are the 12 ways in which women who’ve been hurt show they are sick of all of it.
1. We Doubt Everything:
We doubt the intentions of the guy who shows interest in us. Is he in it for sex or is he just bored? We never really think about the possibility of him being serious about us because that is how much we have been let down in the past. Women who’ve been hurt assume things (wrong, most of them) about men who maybe genuinely interested in her.
2. We Never Have Anything Good To Say:
Even if a guy is seemingly perfect, women who’ve been hurt always looks for a catch to save herself from trouble. Even when our friends date a good guy, we want to look for bad things about him as much as we want to be happy for our friends. All in all, cheating and leaving men made us paranoid and now we are never really fully satisfied.
3. We Accept Sadness:
All the heartbreaks and ignorant behavior of men we loved has left us perpetually sad. We don’t allow happiness to set camp in our minds and bodies anymore and are comparatively better at coping with sadness than we used to be before all the heartbreaks. We accept sadness and keep it like it is meant to be for us.
4. Romance Looks Funny To Us:
For women who’ve been hurt romantic movies become crappy and couples kissing on the roadside become stupid for them. And when a guy says something romantic to us like “You are so beautiful I can look at you forever” we can’t help but reply with “Yeah, right” and chuckle. In short, our love lives start becoming hopelessly risky.
5. Our Secrets Are Ours:
Women who’ve been hurt too many times stop trusting people and keep some secrets to themselves only. Expectations and then disappointments have left us so hopeless of any meaningful relations that we decide to keep some things to ourselves so that no one is able to use it against us. You can never really know everything about people who have had their heart-broken one too many times.
6. We Crush Big Time:
All that is interesting about our love life now is our crush on men we cannot get. They are mostly celebrities or athletes who we know are out of our league. We mostly crush on them because we know that we will never be with them and that is one good way to stay away from getting our hearts broken again.
7. We Play And Ruin:
Due to having abandonment issues, we abandon people before they abandon us in order to prevent any more pain. In order to not be ignored, we ignore first. We play games like this to protect our hearts and these games ruin things for us. We start doing to other men what men before did to us. We play with and ruin the wrong people.
8. Love Becomes a Joke:
We tell people that we will just die alone and keep hooking up when they ask us about our love status. Naturally, we start treating love like a joke and stop thinking seriously about it because that is what it has been made for us. Failing more than once often takes all our hopes down and there is no to blame for it except the people who failed us.
9. We Become The Flirting Kind:
It becomes about having fun and never looking back for us after being left heartbroken too often. Women who’ve been hurt too many times flirt and fool around with more than one man, because staying with just one man means giving him the power to hurt them and anything but that is their course of action now.
10. We Jump Back in Dirt Willingly:
Women who’ve been hurt too many times become the kind of people who text their exes, who make booty-calls and ask the world to damage them more than they already are. We have become so used to pain that we get high on it now. We are already so messed up, what worse can happen?
11. Love Stories Make Us Cringe:
“That never really happens; I call bullshit.” We yell when a player in a movie starts to be with just one girl because he fell in love. Love stories are just too fictitious for our taste now. Not only do we laugh at them but they make us cringe big time.
12. We Secretly, Very Secretly Hope:
Despite being hopeless and rotten at the heart, we secretly hope for things to get better because, after all, we are humans who need love and attention. We might get the latter but love is hard to get and we are not yet giving up at life yet. We hope someone heals all our wounds.
Are you the women who’ve been hurt too many times? Could you relate to the article? Let me know in the comments.