Why is it always so difficult to let go someone you love?
The reason why we can’t let go of someone is because deep inside we still hope.
Every now and then, we all meet people that leave an imprint in our life.
For all reasons, most people that come into our lives are forgettable. But for most of us, there is that one person that leaves an indelible impact.
They are unforgettable and irreplaceable. Their impact is ingrained in our mind and they often recur in our thoughts and imagination.
It becomes impossible to put the person out of your mind. It is as if the person is residing in every bit of you. Every inch of you craves only for that person. You still think that person will realize your value and feel your absence one day and you keep waiting for that moment to come.
You know when you can’t forget someone, every moment is like going through excruciating pain. Whatever you do, whatever you behold, you only keep on reminiscing about the wonderful moments that you have shared with this person. All the moments keep rushing back to you.
You try to run away from his/her memories only to end up with their thoughts. You will keep on obsessively checking their social media handles just to get a glimpse of their personal space. Questions keep plaguing your mind.
“Are they doing good without me?”
“Do they miss me?”
“Do they also visit my social media accounts just as I do?”
You cannot but wonder about that song that reminds you of the person every now and then. Unknowingly you start acting like a stalker.
You can never stop hoping unless your mind accepts that there is no option other than moving on.
Despite repeated imploring with your mind and heart, your head may keep humming with memories of the person you have missed so much. No amount of closure is good for you to forget the person. The blow of the loss was so impactful that forgetting is implausible.
This person has made such a lasting impression that if you let go of him or her, you risk letting go of the countless memories and learning from your association with that person.
For better or worse, you cannot change the part of you that was changed because of this person.
Love will always conquer all things. Meaningful connections are a must between different two people.
We all have a unique touch that we add to a relationship in the world. A special force always changes you and the fate alters. Staying next to each other in times of vulnerabilities is always a must.
Your old flame is someone that lingers in your mind to teach you to rise up from the ashes of the loss.
Focus on something that sets your soul on fire; something that makes you wanna jump out of bed and conquer the universe.
While time is the best healer, here are 5 steps to help let go, someone, you love
1. Cut off contact.
Cut off all sorts of contact with the person. The more you see the person, the difficult it is for your mind to dissociate the memories you have formed with him/her.
Unfollow him/her on all social platforms where necessary. Keep away from the places where you had formed memories with this particular person. It seems that the saying “Out of sight, out of mind” really holds true.
2. Let go of the fantasy.
Living in the fantasy land will take you away from the reality.
Reality is definitely harsh but the faster you face the reality the easier will it be for you to move on from the memories of the person.
The person was undoubtedly a huge part of your life but he/she no longer is. Nevertheless, he/she has taught you purposeful lessons in life.